So You Wanna Become A Stripper, need some Exotic Dancer tips?
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Hey everyone, my name is Mia and a big welcome to my site.
There is a lot of misconceptions about strippers. The aim of this site is to share stripper tips or sometimes called exotic dancer tips to get you there into the stripping industry and start earning faster.
Personally I find stripping is very empowering and gives me a great deal of freedom, control and independence. I can afford to live a great life and its all because I earn a good living and enjoy my job. I have never felt expolited in any way at all.
This is just my opinion. When I first started I was a total newbie, I didn’t know anyone in the industry, I just learned as I went along through many ups and downs, hit and miss, trial and error kind of thing. This took time and a whole load of effort. I never had a mentor, and there was little to no information on stripping when I got started.
Stripping is not for everyone but it is a business just like everything else. I have set up this site because I feel its my time to give something back to girls struggling to make an income from stripping just like I did when I first started.
Life always gives you choices and never become a stripper because you feel you must. If you enjoy it it will show and you will be more successful at it. For me I enjoy the whole environment, interesting people I meet, counting my money at the end of the night, the girls I work with, the luxuries I can now afford.
One of the questions I get asked the most is am I able to hold down a normal relationship. As an experienced stripper many girls I have worked with have stable boyfriends and earn a good living . If you follow the stripper tips on this site, you can making a decent living at stripping, this involves many things from the obvious like being physically fit and looks but also many other skills like communication, sales, body language etc.
The first of many stripper tips I can give is that you must learn to manage yourself, think about what you want out of life, get to work on time and always remember my moto:
“if you are willing to do for one year what others won’t, you can spend a lifetime doing what others can’t…”
Stripper School learned in the clubs
When I first started I was a complete newbie. I didn’t now anything and was about as green as anyone can get. The good thing is you can learn quickly and also make money quickly but only if you follow the tips me and my girlfriends share with you. Everything I learned was in the clubs through my own experience. When I first started there was very little to no information, today however there are some great tutors and resources which are an invaluable asset to any girl.
With the stripper tips me and my girlfriends have learned through lots of experience and are sharing on this site, you too can learn quickly and easily. Feel free to look around, get involved by leaving comments.
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do you have to have sex with the guys or can you
You never have sex with the customers. The important thing to remember is we are talking
about well run strip clubs, if you take the tips on this site you can earn a great living and
be treated well with respect. I have been working in this industry for 6 years and have never
had to compromise my integrity, not once. I hope that helps.
Mia xx
So I’ve decided I really want to dance. I have my own pole and know I a can dance, and I know i’d be good at it and enjoy it. I have a few friends that are dancers and I go to the club all the time, so why not get paid to be there right? Here’s the problem, my husband doesnt want me to. He sorta keeps going back and forth between no, try it, and amateur nights only. Right now he’s stuck on no. Got any ideas on how I can convince him its no big deal? any advice?
Okay so I’d like to get involved in the stripping industry, however all the local clubs in my area cater to pale pasty Caucasian girls. I’m ethnic so I’m worried about being the odd ball out or having to deal with some racial issues; what should I do?
Hi Mia here,
I have worked in many clubs and some of my best girlfriends were of ethnic background and the only ones of thier background in the club. My friend Taya was one of the most successful girls in the club, I’m talking $200,000+ a year.
Clubs owners actually want a variety of girls as it makes their club more appealing and interesting for customers. I think you will have to earn respect from the girls you work with just like any other job, just like any other girl.
Just like any other job go gentle at first and get a feel for the club you work in every club has its own tempo, pace and ways of doing things. You may actually find because of your unique-ness other girls will want to get on your goodside and partner up with you.
Best Thing is to get started, you will work the rest out as you go along.
Best Of Luck! (keep us posted)
Hi Mia here, this is a reply to Honeys messege above,
Sounds like you would be great as a stripper, you understand what its all about and even have friends already in the industry. When I first got started my long term boyfriend was excited at first but then had some issues to deal with. When we discussed it his major issues were not what you would think. He felt insecure that he could not provide enough money for us and he was worried that he would loose me to some wealthy customer who he feared would dazzle me with their big cash.
Once I re-assured him that I could get other jobs but I preffered stripping because it suited my personality, as I’m a bit of a night owl and I can’t really work in a conventional office type job. I re-assured him that I wasn’t stripping out of him not being able to provide for me (men have a core need to feel like the provider).
I Also re-assured him I wasnt about to run away with some one who just flashed the cash, I was in the relationship because I wanted to be there and if I was ever going to leave I could do it anytime and didn’t need to wait for someone to come into the club to do it.
Once he realises its just a job and once you get into the industry just like anything else behind the front you get into a routine. I also told him its like an actress job when you goto work you act it out and leave it there and come home to him.
Long answer, I hope that helps.
Mia xx
If you want more advice check out Jessicas programme at http://www.howtostripper.com who explains this in great detail.
Hello. I need some serious help. I’ve been obsessed with being a stripper for a long time(since I turned 18 last year). I think it’s not bad for earning extra cash on the side. However, I am a shy girl and only 5′1. I think I will be more comfortable doing lapdances for men in private rooms. Are there strip clubs that allow a dancer to only do this?
Hi Alexandria, I am glad you are thinking seriously about becoming a stripper. It is great for earning extra cash on the side. If you are shy , you will have to work on that since you will be the one going up to guys you do not know and talking to them. You will also be selling your services (dances, talking) and will have to come out of your shyness. The best way I can think of doing that is to become an actress at work. A lot of these hollywood actresses are shy but become a character when in a film. So you will have to learn how to do that. Your height is not a problem since you will be wearing heels. I am about 1 inch taller than you. Yes there are clubs that allow you to do lapdances in private rooms. I would really suggest you make sure the club you decide to work at has rooms like these. In fatc if you get jessica simmonds 7 strep strip success, she will help you find and appropriate club and help you with your shyness.
Good luck and keep me posted on how you are doing
Mia x
Hi i wondered if stretch marks would play a big role?
2) and how do you deal with people that might look down on me outside of the club?
Hi, good post. I have been wondering about this issue,so thanks for posting. I’ll definitely be coming back to your site.
Hi Judith,
I know most girls have stretch marks including me…so it is nothing to worry about. Some girls cover them with make up like foundation but most dont bother since it is dark in the club and it is not really noticable
Dealing with people outside the club – really it shouldnt matter what others think…but that is not the case since there is certain stigmas associated with our job. That is becoming better as the world is becoming mroe open minded. But my advice on that would be
1) never be embarassed what you do…it is your life and at the end of it you will not have to justify yourself to anyone. Also I dont really tell anyone unless I have to. I just say I work in a bar…it is no ones business but mine an the close people in my life,. The thing is that you know what you are doing and know it is respectable…others have only thier imagination and it is running wild. You cannot control thier imagination or thier stigma, so you cant keep caring. At the end of the day, they have no right to look down on you and they ar enot paying your bills…so do what you think is right and ignore them
Once you start working and do it in a respectable way, you will gain self respect for yourself and learn not to care. They will be wondering how you are living a flexible life and having money to enjoy it and fulfill your real dreams
Good luck
Mia
I’ve been looking all over for more information on how to become a stripper, and this site is really useful! My friend and I are thinking of becoming strippers together, sort of like a support system and to keep each other safe. Is that a good idea?
I just turned 18 & am thinking about becoming a stipper to help pay my way through college. i just want to do it during the summer & maybe weekends. a couple of my guy friends have said that i would be a great stripper but i am only an A cup size & am a little self concious about it since all i see are strippers with at least b cups & larger. Can i be a sucessful stripper even if i don’t want to get breat enhancement?
Hi Cassandra,
It is a great idea to work with a friend, as it can be quite daunting at first. Just remember that it can get funny when you are dealing with money and friends. As long as you can both work together and know that work is work and friendship is friendship, you both will be fine
Hi Jordan,
Hi,
I have been a stripper for a number of years and I have seen girls who have AA cups and GG cups and every kind in between. And they have all done well as
long as you know how to sell yourself as an asset. Jessica Simmonds teaches this the best, so it is worth getting her book
Please do not get breast enlargments and dont be self concious of your breasts….most men will love them……And you will be great
I hope that helps and I wish you good luck
Thanks
Mia
I think I will try to recommend this post to my friends and family, cuz it’s really helpful.
Hi Ladies,
I really want to get into the industry but I had a bad breast augmentation a few years ago that left bad scaring on my areolas. Is there any way to hide this on stage?
Dear Mary,
I am sorry to hear about your breast augmentation. The good news is that you will be able to cover the ares with make up and tanning cream. Also with the fact that it is dark in the club, you will have no problems working in the clubs. on stage you will also not see it if you use the make up and the tanning cream…These days make up is so good it doesnt rub off on the clothes, I know because i cover up some stretch marks when i feel the need
Good luck
Mia
Hi Mia,
I am looking into getting in the industry here in Canada, but dont know exactly how to get my foot in the door. I’m not sure what the norm is – are auditions typical? What’s expected? I find this to be the tricky part as I am comfortable dancing but can get nervous if put on the spot. Any advice?
Hi If you call up the local clubs in your area (or wherever you are thinking of working) and ask them what their audition process is like they will tell you. In some clubs they just ask you to come in and dance around a pole and others will just want to look at you,it depends, just ask them also what you need to wear so you can be prepared. If you need to know how to dance watch some basic pole dancing videos on youtube and practice posing in front of a mirror. Everybody gets nervous, so when you go for your audition, just tell yourself that you can do it and pretend you are an actress and are in a role. You dont know the person watching you in your audition and probably will never see them if you dont work there anyway, so who cares. It will be good practice for you since the job will require you to be put on the spot often.
Mia,
Your site is great. I’ve just moved to a big city and am not making ends meet very easily. My roommate is a 55 year old man that I do not know, and I literally live in ‘the hood’. I have a job and a degree, however I’m just not making ends meet and am sick of looking at the stacks of bills piling up. I have recently began thinking about stripping as a way to supplement income. Do you regret starting? Is it really something you would recommend? I have never done anything like it before but I know that I am a good dancer and I’m not sure how to decide if I should strip or not for sure. I know it would be good financially for me and my family as they would be able to stop helping me and I could make ends meet on my own.
Any advice?
Thanks,
Lacy
Hi Mia,
I’m intersted in working at this club that has a fee of I think $45 you have to pay every night in order to be allowed to dance there. Does this mean the club is more desirable/high-end to work at due to good clients or is it something every club decides on just because. Its in a very good location so I’m keen on going there first. Have you had any experiences working at such clubs with fees?
Thanks,
Kate
Dear Lacey,
Thsnk you for your email. I am sorry to hear that you are struggling..I was too. I do not regret it for a second. If you think you could do it then go for it….It really is the best thing I have done.It has improved the life of my whole family and especially mine.I didnt have any experience eithe, but i soon learned. Dont worry if you do not know what to do, go to some auditions and practice in front of a mirror. Watch youtube videos of basic pole dancing. In fact if you really want to start dancing I would recommend Jessica’s 7 Step strip Book.It will help you with everything, including your psychology whcih if you haven’t done this before is helpful. It also will teach you how to make money since you need it quick, you may not have the time to make mistakes and come home with debt. IT is unfortunatly ttrue, most dancers do not make a great income and may leave the club worse off
I wish you luck and I hope you let me know how you are doing
Mia
Hi Kate,
Different clubs charge differently, but generally speaking they do charge depending on what the girls can afford to pay, So if 45 in your area is quite high, it must mean that most girls are earning enough money to pay it. I would try it.
All the clubs I have worked in or am working in have fees that are higher than 45 but if you know what you are doing you can easily earn that. I used to come home in debt quite often as well before I learned from Jessica. In my club there are girls that go home in debt. Thats why you have to be careful. I know a girl who owes the club over £300’s!
Good luck and write back to let us know how it is going
Mia
This information is for exotic performers in California. However, all girls, everywhere should look into their local labor laws and have them enforced.
Governor Davis signs bill supporting exotic dancers!
On Friday, September 29, 2000, Governor Gray Davis signed Assembly Bill 2509 (Authored by Assemblyman Steinberg). A.B. 2509 improves enforcement and administrative procedures of wage and hour laws before the Labor Commissioner and the courts, and increases civil penalties and damages for violations. The bill will be in effect as of January 1, 2001.
A.B. 2509 classifies exotic dancers as employees, and entitles them to keep their gratuities (“tips) from patrons. Under existing labor laws, employers can’t take gratuities intended for the employee or deduct or credit gratuities against wages due.
Owners who require the payment of “stage fees,” “commissions,” or ”quotas” from any portion of dancers’ tips will be in violation of State labor laws. Dancers can file a claim with the Labor Commission and request the return of paid fees and any unpaid wages (you can go back 3 years from the date that you file your claim), or make an anonymous report to the Labor Commission that their employer is charging fees and taking money from dancers’ tips.
State of California Labor Commission: 455 Golden Gate Avenue, (415) 557-7878
Thank you Linzey – I am sure this info will be helpful
Hi Mia,
This site has been very very helpful, just expressing my gratitude!
I am 20 years old and very confident with my body and soul, I am making plans to earn money to travel as well as save up, Although i fear being thrown into a situation like stripping may test my courage! The club here in Australia i want to audition for takes 50% and all i can keep thinking about is someone I know walking in and seeing me and then the thought of loosing half my hard earned money! I will not be telling my family or friends about it, and am seriously considering going in this week to begin, i never know until i try! i just hope i can handle the hours and lifestyle
any advice?
Thanks a bunch!
Hi Lola,
Thank you for the compliment, I really appreciate it.
You are right, your courage will be tested, but like everything in life, you will get used to it and it will soon be no big deal for you, really.
50% is a lot, and there are some clubs that will charge less. BUt i always think if the club is confident enough to take 50% they know the girls earn good money and the big spenders do come in….so it may be worth trying it.Also these kinds of clubs are safe and well looked after usually and that is the kind of club you want. You can always leave, so do not worry about the cut. If teh club didn’t justify it, girls will leave and they do not want that.
About someone you knwo walking in, well that is a fact that could happen. You have to choose if that is really important to you, over and above your lifestyle. It can happen, but what is the worst that can happen? They do not come and pay your bils right? So who are they to judge?
I have stopped caring and realise life is too short. I hope you do too
In terms of handling it, I am sure you will, its just a matter of getiing used to it. As you are so new, If you can , invest in Jessicas 7 Step Strip Success as she will fill in the gaps and let you know how to make money, so 50% or not, it will be worth your while
Good Luck
Mia xx
Hi Mia,
I’m really enjoying your site. I have been seriously considering becoming a stripper for about a year now. Now I’ve recently lost my job, so now will be better then ever. I know I’m hot & I’ve been to a few clubs with my husband & even the girls working encouraged me to dance. I have a couple questions. 1) What is the best way to practice before an audition? and 2) What is the safest way to go about being a stripper? I’ve read some other sites saying to never give your real name or tell anyone your address & avoid giving anyone (including the other girls) your phone number. Thank you for taking your time!
Hi Lizabeth,
1) The best way to prctice, is to go to a pole dancing class as they are in all areas now and you can pick up loads from just one class
2) The sasfest way to go about being a stripper is if you check the club out first and phone them to see what the club rules are and what the audition process is. Then it is a good idea to work there for one day with someone picking you up and at hand if you need to call them. Also I find that if you go to a reputable club that is quite large or well known, there will be mroe rules and regulations, do not go to a back street club which can be unsafe. I agree with keeping all your private information private as you never really know who anybody is. I have a stage name and a made up name that people think is my real name if i need to tell them
I hope that helps
Good luck
Mia xx
Hi! I like your site!
I have a few questions.
1. I am thinking of becoming a stripper, but I am unsure because of safety. I have read pretty much all the safety recommendations out there, but I was also told to think about what you wouldn’t at first think to worry about. Is it really THAT dangerous? Specifically, I was looking to work at a Christie’s Cabaret club. I am planning to visit, and it seems like a non-back alley club, but have you heard of it, know anything about it?
I am also thinking of working a day shift instead of night. That is better for my schedule, and also I was thinking it’s safer…?
2. I don’t know if I know how to dance! I think I have some rhythm, but do you have to be a serious dancer or with a dance background to do well on auditions? When the girls go up there, do they have routines they do? Where can I get a routine for an audition (I know it’ll also pay to go visit, which I will)?
3. Do you recommend any website for shoes? I mean a lot of the sexy bordello shoes 5 inches or above are plastic. That HAS to be an ouch factor there.
4. Did you ever feel “guilty” about being a stripper? I don’t know if I want my family to know about this, they’d flip!!!
Thanks so much! Sorry for sooooooooo many questions!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I look forward to your response!
Hey!
Love the site!
Ok, so I want to work COMPLETELY off the books. I share a joint checking account with my dad (though I live alone). How can I make sure that all income I receive remains private? Is this possible?
Thanks!!!!!!! L
Hi Pinup girl!
1) It is not THAT dangerous as long as you take the necessary precautions which I have written about on this site.You have to be careful especially so when leaving the club at night to go home. Yes the day shift is safer as you will leave to go home during the day where there are more people around. And the club you have mentioned which area is it in? I can find out for you?
2)Most girls aren’t trained dancers and clubs will accept you as long as you can strut around teh pole looking sexy and posing. Look on youtube for basic pole dancing moves, you can also go to a class. I am sure if you can dance even a little you will be fine. And most clubs will not expect a routine, but phone up to ask, they will let you know what to expect.
3) stripper shoes on the whole are quite comfortable, you will be surprised. If there is a sex shop where shoes and the like are sold, try them on. And a great website for shoes is discount stripper, take a look at their site (link on thr ight of this page)
4) I did feel guilty at fiorst , but then realised that it is my life and I love what I do, so I have to live with it. You have to decide that if they do find out, will you be ok?
I hope that helps and look forward to seeing another fellow dancer
Miaxx
Hey Loleeta,
I really wouldn’t recommend working off the books, and I will tell you why. Initially it may seem like you will save money on tax etc, but as you will not be able to get a loan or a house you will lose out longterm, I would always declare it
As for your joint account, you will just have to explain where the money is coming from you. As you will get cash in most clubs, you can either keep it or put it in the bank so it is up to you if you want to put it in a bank account or not
Good luck
Mia
Hey Mia, thanks so much this response is sooo helpful.
Ok, so it is Christie’s Cabaret in Nashville. I think they are a “chain” club, so have locations all over the country.
Thanks sooo much! <3
Hi Pinup girl
I have just asked Jessica as she has students she teaches all over and she has been told from a few girls that Christies caberet is quite good as well as Deja vu. Only you can tell when you work there as every gilr likes different clubs
Good luck
Mia xx
Hey, what’s up?
Thanks for the site!
Hm, I guess I want to know, please, how you can best go about working as a stripper without other people finding out. I mean of course there is always that risks, but how can you do it to guarantetee maximum privacy? Also, like a lot of these clubs that look pretty good and swanky and have online sites, they ask you to fill out an employee app and send in your photo. Is this ok to do or might it be for some other seedy reason? As i said, like these look like good clubs, though gotta check em out too, lol.
HI Lauri,
You can make sure that no one finds out if you work in a town city that is far away from people you know, although there is still a little risk, although it is very small
Also in terms of photos, jsut make sure that they are respectable looking clubs, and it should be fine, the otehr option is to go there on audition nights so you do not have to send photos in
another option is to get Jessicas book at howtostripper.com and she will be able to tell you the good clubs as she has students all over the country and world so is more then likely to know a girl who works there. She is like a walking club directory!
Good luck
Mia xx
hi mia, i recently just turned 18 years old and i live in a small town….i have just picked a club to audition for….ii am very nervous because number 1 i am not that tall..only 5′5 and my breast are not that big…number to i am african american and uerta rican but i look just like a very light skin black girl…i heard the club im auditioning for majority brings in caucasions. so i am skeptikal if they will not want a dance or tip me because i am not there race or type…also i wonder if my dancing style may not please their taste..so i wonder do i need to tone it down a notch and dance like the others or dance how i dance…my dance style can be very up beat or slow but i have alot of urban dancing ways far as fast booty skaing and rocking, splits and bouncing with it. etc…. so how the customers will take me is very concerning to me and i am very nervous…….what should i do? should i find a different club more urban or should i just go for it! thanks for reading my concerns i really appriciate it soooo much
LOVE,
lala
hey Lala,
Ok i am glad you are trying and I want to reassure you of a couple of things
Firstly, you do not have to worry about your height..I am only 5′2 and many girls are shorter…so dont worry about that> in terms of breasts, you will see girls with AA cups to GG cups as guys will like many different girls..there are only rare guys I have found who just prefer one type, most can fall for you despite breast size
Secondly about being mixed race, you will find that most guys will love you and your dance style, hell your president is African American, so you can see how accepting most people are. I would just go and be yourself and learn what works better. I am sure you will be great! I don’t think you should find another club, I think you will be great as long as your attitude is right
Good Luck and keep us updated with what you are doing
Mia xx
Hi i wanted to know if anyone was here from Ny, I am interested in lessons from someone. I can already dance and used to work for a gentlemans club I just want tips on some exotic new moves and how to work the pole.
Hi Mia,
I am starting work in a topless bar this weekend. Im really nervous as ive never done anything like this before, i have smallish breasts and have had a child so have faint stretchmarks. Can you give me any tips for my forst night please?
Im soo happy to have come across this site….this motivates me more to become a dancer. I know the money can be great but I think I will love doing this, it fits me really well, so im excited! Thanks Mia!! Mwuah!
Hi. I’m an 18 year old wife and mother. I go to school full time and I love to dance. This site has helped my with so many question. I asked a question on yahoo answers about me becomeing a stripper to help me with school. and one of the answer was to tell my husband that I want to cheat on him. I don’t I love my husband very much and I don’t know how to tell him I want to help because he’s the only one who works and it’s hard to make ends meet. What should I do?
I was thinking about working at the Mouse’s Ear in Johnson City, Tennessee. but i don’t know anything about it. My husband says that they have been busted a few times for drugs. What to do?
I am new to dancing and I want to do well in this industry but I am shy. How do I over come shyness and gain more confidence in approaching men?
This page is so jam packed with advice, it’s amazing!
I’ve been curious about becoming a stripper for some time and I know that some things you need to learn through experience, no matter what advice you’re given… My main concern is about the private dances/lap dances.
The club I want to work at has a 3-song set, done on rotation from the main stage to the two side stages… and the rest of the night is spent trying to get customers to buy lap dances.
1. How long should you spend with a customer? Is it “per song” or rather how long you feel comfortable dancing for him?
2. What are some tips on asking a guy if he’d like a dance or how to exit the conversation if he seems uninterested?
Thank you!
Hi Mia,
(i work fri and sat night each week)
I remember i wrote to you back in October (on this same page) and wanted to give you an update! I did go into the club that takes 50% i accepted this fact because the club is brand new with amazing facilities! and a great management/staff team. My first night was a piece of cake i think i made about $400 and had no nerves what so ever and have continued ever since with no problems and am now averaging $700 per night After the 50% cut
I don’t care if anyone i know comes in, and i ended up telling my family- it was rocky at the start but they are coming around seeing that myself as a person hasn’t changed at all. So im off to peruse your site again to refresh my memory!
i feel very accomplished- this job IS empowering and you leave feeling proud! <3
Thanks very much xx
Hey Layla,
Sorry about the delay, I hope your first night went well….did it?
About having smallish breasts do not worry….girls have all sorts of shapes and sizes.
ANd about strecth marks, you can hide with makeup or you can not worry about them as it is dark and most men are really not concerned about this
We would all like to know how your night went so please let us know
Mia xx
Thank you so much Leka Lee
Hi Jenn
You and your husband need to both sit down and discuss this together. If you do that then maybe he will feel better about the idea.
Also if you could talk to him about what the job really is like and that you are like an actress, you will find that it helps him understand and cope with you “being” with other men> becasue ulimatly that is what we do…we are actresses to entertain the men that come into these clubs.Jessica taught me that and it s much more easier to cope with the job when you think of it like that
Also get your husband to read this site as it will make him realise that striping is a job and it has to be treated professionally just like any other job
Good lucka nd let me know how it goes
Thanks
Mia xx
Hi Jenn,
About the club you want to work in, I am glad your husband is taking an active interest. If he feels worried about it, then I would look at another club. I know That jessica can find out a good club in Tenessee for you,…I will email her and let you know
Mia
Dear Lanicanegra
I was also very shy when I started this job, and in my real life still do come across shy.
let me tell you how I dealt with this. I learn this from Jessica
I became an actress. I am sure that all the actresses are not all outgoing. They become a character and copy what that charatcer does and how they act. Because they are that character, they can do things that are not the way you would behave. They can also be more daring and choose whatever they want to say and bbe mroe fearless. Because youa re not “you” you can approach guys and talk to them without worry about rejection as you are not the one getting rejected, the actress is. Does that make sense?
Also you could read books on getting more confident
I hope that helps
Mia xx
Hi Cindy,
A lapdance should last one song. That way you and your customer can judge the time.
Also it is long enough to have fun but short enough for him to want more
So one song is good
Also when you want to ask for a dance, once you and him are having fun( about 5mins of conversation or more depending on how you are gtting on with him) ask him. Say, lets go for a dance and to exit if he is not interested, sat, well let me know if you change your mind. and politely walk away
Thanks
Mia xx
Hi Lola
That is great!!
You sound like you are doing really well.I am happy to hear about yoru family too
Do Come back and give us all some tips
As you have done amazing
I am sure a lots of the girls would apreciet your learning
Thank you
Mia xx
Hey Mia, I really like your site.
Do you know anything about Nashville Strippers, in Nashville, TN?! Thinking of working there…
Thanks!
Thanks so much Mia
My pleasure Jenn
Hi Lauri,
i am just emailing a friend who works in Nashville. I will let you know
Mia xx
Hello Mia!
Thanks so much for creating this blog. I’ve only been dancing for 6 months and I am still learning new things every day. I am currently looking for a new workplace. Do you know if there are any websites on the internet that have strip club reviews written by actual dancers? I’d like to make as informed a decision as possible about the next club I work at, and I thought it would be helpful if there were a website such as this, where dancers can blog about their personal experience at a club. If this type of site exists, and you are aware of it, I would greatly appreciate your insight : )
Hey Mia!
I’ve been looking around at websites for a while and i’m so glad i found this one!
I’ve been dancing for about 3 or so months, but i’ve been working in strip clubs for a while. When I first started dancing I made decent money and then I finally started making some real money. But it just seemed like i could never make more than 700 a night and now it seems like i’m not making nearly as much, but one of my friends is making around 1200 a night. Just looking for some tips that might help me get back on track. Thanks.
Hi Audrey, I am so sorry I do not know of a service like this, but I do know Jessica has info on clubs all over as she has over 500 students and can find out for you. You can email her at jessicax250@aol.com
What a great idea…should we start a club review here from dancers by other dancers?
Please lte me know
Thanks
Mia xx
Hey Madeline
thank you.
I understand what you are going through…we all go through these slumps at times. And I know…
You must not compare yourself to your friend because that will make you feel crap about your money and not wanna go for it.So stop watching her
Also I know I do say this and it sounds like I am plugging it ( which I am because I know It works), But when I did go through my major slump, Jessica and her book did help. Her email support made me get rid of the weeds that was stopping me making money…and it is different for everybody, which is why she emails you one to one to teach you what you need.
It is an investment of $97, But I can say it was well worth it.
I hope that helps
Hi Mia, Love your site!
I am 25 years old, went to University, but I am having a hard time finding employment. I have always wanted to be a dancer. I have no experience dancing- am I crazy to be thinking about this at my age? People always tell me that I look young, and I could pass for much younger. Until what age do you think someone could work as a dancer? Do most clubs ask your age? Do they perfer younger girls?
Thanks!
Natalya
Hi Natalya,
Thank you
No You are not crazy at all!. There are girls who are in thier 30’s and even in their 40’s who still dance, so you are young.
Most clubs will ask your age to check youa re legal, but if you look toned , they do not care how old you are.
Most clubs really do not care how old you are and do not prefer older or younger girls, just girls who look good and make money and do not do stupid things like drugs
You will be fine, go ahead and feel confident
Good luck
Mia xx
Hi again Mia,
sure i would love to give some tips!
another update- i have had some kick ass nights making $900-1000 and average $500-800. One night i got tipped, yes tipped for nothing $750 straight up in 100 bills. I have danced for celebrities and millionaires, I have girls lining up asking me for tips and having their mouths hang open at the end of the night when they see how much i have made (our club takes half so its not easy) i must admit, these days its NOT easy money.
My first tip would be- STUDY FIRST. I am 20 years old and only need to work two nights a week, stripping always intrigued me and i am a very controlled person so i researched like crazy before hand, about sales, body language, attraction, i chatted to any dancer i already knew and i even had a trial night as a waitress at the club i was keen on to get a true inside look, all these stepping stones paved a way for success and confidence.
Please let me know if you would like me to continue with any other tips!
Lola x
I got hired at a high end stripclub simply based on my looks I definatly can dance yet my pole experience is definatly a beginer I have my own pole so I practice everyday to get better and for fun fitness. I’ve never stripped before but I get a kick out of being nude in general like u said its definatly a a feeling of empowerment and control however I guess what I’m asking from you is just a simple pep talk before I do my first night in a couple nights hahah and would also like to here what or how from start to finish does a girls first day generally go? Thanks a bunch ;*
Hi Ashley
great Attitude! Keep up the pole dancing.
When you first go to a strip club you will find it quite an unusual setting as there are so many amazing looking girls and all of them appear so confident, as you will after a while.
What i fould very difficult to comprehend when i got there was that I had to sell myself, I thought that i would be able to just turn up and men would give me money for the pleasure of seeing me naked.
But it wasn’t like that, so I found the idea of “selling” myself to the guy very difficult to grasp.
And that is what i had to get my head around
My first and second night was just trying to strike up a conversation and timidly asking for a dance.
I did get better, but it does take practice. for your first an second night get used to talking to the customers and asking for a dance. You will get better
if you want to make money quicker, i will always recommend Jessica’s book as she does teach you techniques which really helped me make money
I wish you a lot of luck and come and tell us how your first night went, we will all be wondering
Mia xx