The club you Choose can make a big difference

Hi everyone,

Are you enjoying Trinity’s story so far? If you don’t know what I am talking about have a read of Trinity a blog reader who has just started stripping and is telling us how she is doing. start reading here – How to become a stripper

I asked Trinity how she chose her club and she was happy to tell me this

Choosing My Club

There’’s only one club near where I live that is within a reasonable driving distance. I called them to ask about their auditions and what kind of things I would need for the audition as well. But I also read enough on this blog and other good sites about what kind of questions to ask about the Club you want to audition at;

Do they have security guards?

How well are Private dances monitored?

What are the rules about private dances?

My club has one security guard on duty during the week (small club) and two during the weekend. The guards are constantly walking around and observing, one will be stationed at the Private dance area at ALL times during which private dances are being given and also walk the girls out for smoke breaks and to their cars after the shift.

Our private dances and stage dances are STRICTLY hands off. At no point is the customer allowed to touch one of the dancers while she is doing any kind of dance. I had one gentleman touch my side to see my tattoo and I didn’t really think anything of it but the security guard asked him to not touch me and then my boss reminded me NO ONE is to touch me while I’m naked or doing a private dance. NO EXCEPTIONS.

Had they been very lax about these rules or looked the other way when girls went past their boundaries, I wouldn’t have worked there. Period. I am an entertainer, not a plaything. I believe that myself and all the other women I work with are first class and we all demand respect.

All in all, when it comes to choosing a club, I have to restate what Mia’s been telling you in her blog all along- Work where you feel safe, valued and comfortable. Don’t settle for less than you deserve.

Wasn’t that just fantastic? I thought that was really good advice

We are all rooting for you Trinity..

The story continues

I have been dancing since i was 18 and im 22 now i have danced in several clubs state wide and i have seen every type of customer there is as well as worked with every type of girl there is.

For those of you with stretch marks or are a little chunky or your teeth are crooked dont worry about it im serious even though your self concious about it be confident on the outside hold your head high have pride in yourself (dont be bitchy or stuck up) but have pride be proud of who you are and what you do for a living be outgoing sociable fun outgoing and the customers wont even notice i have girls that worked in the club i work at now who weigh 200 lbs and they always made money it wasnt thier size or their teeth or their skin texture it was their personality that sold the dances and made the tips and sold the vips and champange rooms. i recently got in a car wreck and although they are not completely gone my two front teeth got broken in half and i was nervous and scared to even show my face at my mailbox much less a club but i sucked it up did it and i still make just as much as i used to before my accident if not more.(sympathy tips lol) but im telling you dont worry about what outfit hides this the best or what hides my teeth more this lipstick or this lip gloss dont stress it as long as you have that confident proud outgoing fun loving spontaneous personality your garunteed to make money.

I have seen girls sit there all night not talk to anyone cause they are self concious then they complain cause they dont make money well sugar its not just gonna hand itsself to you you have to work for it. like most strip clubs the girls can be cliquey some are quite some are loud and obnoxious some drink alot alot alot some dont drink at all and others (sorry ladies) are straight up bitches dont be like them be you if you want start your own clique but dont get wrapped up in the drama NO ONE and i mean NO ONE likes drama.

As for outfits wear what your comfortable in wear what you like and what makes you feel sexy and seductive wear that sexy new dress and heels that you just bought or maybe a skirt and top that youve had forever! and you can alter to make more provocative (ladies you know the outfit im talkin about ya know that one that everytime you put on you feel like a diva and you always smile and flirt cause its that special outfit that puts that bounce in your step?) yep! that one! wear what makes you comfy but yet make it sexy a bikini is nice yes but want to dress up the bikini and heels look? try buying a long wrap to wear as a floor length skirt over the bottoms and leave the split in front or on one of your legs straighten your hair and crimp little sections to give yourself that tropical cutie look. or go for the miami look a short form fitting dress and regular street heels (heels that oyu can wear outside the club) and matching garter make it look like you just left a dance club and came to work. most girls love the red but most dont look good in the red lipstick so heres a trick take the red lipstick and pat it on your lips to give it the pink look and then keep going top and bottom three more times each and then apply gloss dont rub it on like normal pat it and once you get the gloss on you have the red look without the french whore appeal…

Ladies i say this with the deepest concern for all of you aspiring or veteran dancers.. please please please dont buy heels that you always seem to have issues with ya know the ones that are taller than the middle of your shin? and aspiring dancers i recommend getting heels that are either street heels or what the veteran dancers call trianer heels youll know them when you see them they have a very short heel and very short platform but look equally as sexy dont think cause everyone else has the mile high heels that you have to have them dont need to break an ankle ive seen so many new girls do that and end up hospitalized from falling off stage breaking bones or twisting or breaking their ankle and its just not pretty plus not all customers think its sexy.

As for those of you who are scared of your family not approving of you being an entertainer heres how i broke the news to mine and maybe itll give you some ideas..granted my mom used to dance back in her prime she was so against me getting on a pole she forbid me to ever become an entertainer so i did it anyway and i kept it secret and when i first started dancing i had several bills to pay (which my parents were paying for ) but when i made money and they started noticing my bills were already being paid that they wernt spending the money to pay them they asked me what was going on and i told them, yes they were pissed but i pointed out the fact that at least i was making money and becoming more independant and paying my own bills and not relying on them so much for the things i wanted or neededand they gradually started to accept the fact that that was the job i chose and that i was happy. no matter how made your parents get in reality all they want to do is see their little girl happy and supporting herself and trying to make it through life on her own two feet.

As for hairstyles i see alot of girls just straighten their hair and go while as sexy as straight hair may be mix it up instead of straightening it and leaving it crimp a few pieces here and there or braid a few small strands in random places instead of curling your hair all the way up try just curling the ends to about midway to give your ends body and bounce instead of the girl next door ponytail use a clip put half up half down and pull a few pieces out in front some girls like the (ghetto) look the one where you put your hair in a pony tail flip it up and tie it up in another scrunchie and slick it back with hair gel and pull the baby hair out on their face while cute as that may look from my experience majority of customers like thair down gives them something to play with and shows a bit of class. or even wash your hair let it air dry brush it it out and let your hair have its natural body show now if your the type with the hair that frizzes like no tomorrow while your hair is still damp there is a serum called biolage its like frizz ezz but it doesnt have all that oil in it so it doesnt make your hair look greasy or dirty and it adds natural shine and gets rid of the frizz just as well…

Some girls dont wash their hair but every other day take some baby powder just a little bit rub it in your palms and run your hands through your hair starting at the roots and going to the end then brush it out have someone check your hair to make sure there isnt huge globs or sections of it in your hair (no baby powder does not show up in black lights). for those of you who dont really like your nails professionally done or just dont have the money a simple nail clip and polish looks just as attractiveor even if you take really good care of your nails and toes the nautral look looks good as well… as for makeup i usually go with a dark midnight blue eyeshadow and of course black eyeliner and black mascara it makes they eyes look deep mysterious sexy seductive erotic (not all girls can pull this off so test the look at home before work ) and i usually just use a lightly tinted pink gloss to give my lips the fresh plump sexy look i also try to cordinate my makeup with my outfits for example: if i wore a red top black thong or bootyshorts id wear black and red eyeshadow and red lipstick if i wore a white and turquoise blue dress id wuld wear turquoise blue eyeshadow black mascara and black eyeliner with tinted gloss if i wore black and white i wuld wear white eyeshadow and gloss…

As everyone knows accessories are a girls best friend try not to over do it if your the girl who does alot of pole tricks feel free to wear necklaces just not the really long ones as they will fly everywhere and slip over your head if your upside down on the pole rings are not recommended for those who do pole tricks as the pole will no matter what you do bend and disfigure your rings making them tight and almost impossible to get off your fingers and they will pinch like crazy for those who do more stage work like on your knees or back rings are the thing for you earrings go for it if your the flashy sparkly kinda gal diamond it up girlie! if your the rocker tattoo piercing kinda gal try not to do anything crazy like spikey piercings (it tends to scare away the customers)…

As for the tall girls dont worry dont think of it as your too tall think of it as you have long sexy legs and alot of guys love the long sexy legs… as for the rest of you aspiring entertainers i say go for it whats the worst that could happen?

Oh for the ones who were inquiring about “that time of month” or as the veterans call it “dancers nightmare week” cutting the string on the tampon is a good suggestion but if your anything like me and cant wear tampons or pads use toilet paper when you go to change down there take some toilet paper ball it up as much as you think you can handle putting up there (the more the better) and push it up like you would a tampon you will feel slight discomfort(nothing too extreme i promise) but once its in it feels like a tampon you cant feel it the good thing about this method is no string it lasts 2-4 hrs longer than a tampon its alot safer than a tampon so you dont have to worry about tss you can flush it (obviously cause its toilet paper) no odor if your someone who has that issue during your monthly and the way to get it out is just push like oyur givin birth just push and itll come out if your scared its stuck up there you can always use your fingers but as gross as it sounds thats what soap and water and hand sanitizer is for your hands can always be washed and the blood will go away but if you leak on stage the embarrassment and the teasing wont.

A major big huge tip i will give you girls is as pretty as it looks NO GLITTER! customers dont like glitter most are married and they come to us for relaxation and entertaiment they dont want to go home to their wife and end up gettin busted with a ton of glitter all over them. but for the most part have fun be safe be confident use your talents and make the money.. but most of all be proud of who you are or who you want to be what we do is a job like any other only we are half naked if not full nude and not on payroll but its a job ladies be proud of it dont let anyone tell you any different your all beautiful and i believe in you all you can do it. if you have any other questions about more specific topics feel free to ask anytime

good luck!

A Very Big Thank You To Mercedez For This Post

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Trinity started her journey here on strippertipsblog and has gone from stregnth to stregnth, so any of you feeling nervous, Trinity is the real deal who went from start and is now working and getting her dreams

So over to You Trinity -

Private dances depend on what club you work at. Some allow nudity, some more risque ventures and some, like mine, have no nudity and no touching. Period the end.

We also have some structured rules; one foot on the floor at all times, 3-second crotch to body touch time ect. Always follow your clubs rules. Always.

Now private dances can be awkward and downright frustrating! Try not to go overboard on appearing ’seductive’ or ’sexy’. Just be yourself. Talk to the customer a little and if he opens up so much the better!!! Much of what a private dance consists of is hard to visualize from what I write. We have a wall surrounding our dance area so we can put our knees and hands up against it while we dance.

We use alot of what we do on stage in a private dance as well. Thigh rotations, butt shaking, hip rotations ect. If we’re feeling extra generous we mix up the routine a little lol. Just remember to breathe! Its ok if he doesn’t look thrilled or even if he doesn’t like you at all, you’ll get better!!

Watch what some of the other girls do as well. One of my favorite moves is to get my nose in the crook of their neck, not enough to touch but enough so their feel my breath on their neck, and run my hand across their chest. Shivers almost 100% guaranteed.

Great! So if you need any more tips just ask below

Mia xx

Stripping is said to be one of the oldest professions know to man. There are lots of famous women who started out as strippers. Take a look:

Anna Nicole Smith

No suprises here, Anna used to run the stage in a Texan strip club namely igi’s. Woo who girl!

Courtney Love

Get your single dollar bills out, fellas, because Courtney Love is about to take the main stage. Holla! Love reportedly worked as a stripper in Japan, Taiwan, and Alaska

Channing Tatum

It has been discovered that the G.I. Joe star used to shake his money maker when someone (thankfully) posted the AWESOME VIDEO on US Weekly’s website. His stage name: “Chan Crawford” Nice, dude.

Lady Gaga

Before she was ripping up the worlds pop charts, she was a lady of the evening ripping up the strip clubs. She told UK’s News of the World: “I was working in strip clubs when I was 18. Girls from my background weren’t meant to turn into someone like me. I come from a wealthy Italian family, went to a good school. You’re meant to live with Mom and Dad until they die.”

Amber Rose

Amber Rose who you may have heard off, already had a stripper name so it’s hard not imaging Kanye West’s main squeeze twirling around a pole stripping. Though back then, she only went by “Rose” on the stage

Jenna Jameson

Jenna Jameson’s career started from stripping went to porn then to acting in somewhat mainstream movies, albeit straight-to-video zombie flicks. But still…

Nadya “Octomom” Suleman

The Octomom as she better known, who’s been criticized, among other things, for emulating Angelina Jolie, admitted to stripping “just for one night”. Her stage name: “Angelina”.

8. Carmen Electra

Before the Baywatch bombshell washed up on the Los Angeles County beaches, she used what resources God gave her to make it rain singles. She recently even released her own signature brand stripper pole. Claaaaasy.

Diablo Cody

It’s no big secret that the Juno scribe was once a hottie in Minneapolis strip club dancer. Hell, she still goes by her stage name. And she’s not in the least bit ashamed. She told Esquire: “I’ve incorporated the pasties into my business wardrobe.”

Tila Tequlia

She has reportedly told King-Mag.com: “When I was 18 and still in high school, I was a stripper for a while, because I was trying to save up money to move to Hollywood to become this bisexual Hollywood starlet that I am today.” But then again she also claimed to be pregnant and also billionaire. So draw your own summary and conclusions.

So you see you will never know where we could really end up!

1) never approach a guy from behind. He wants to get a good look at you and fantasize a bit before he decides he likes you or not.

2) don’t rush a guy as soon as he arrives. He wants to look around and get the layout of the place, figure out the best place to sit, see what the girls look like, see if his favorites are there that night, have a drink first, maybe order something to eat and enjoy the stage show first, …

3) just because he rejects you the first time, don’t forget to stop by later. He might not have been ready yet or he realized he might like you afterall. He might have been waiting for the hot girl who was there last time or his first choice is fully occupied.

4) circulate. Don’t hang out in a corner with one guy or your girlfriends. There could be some guy waiting for you with a lot of cash but you disappeared. If there’s a bar hang out there awhile. At least every half hour just walk around in every section of the club. Walk slowly enough so a potential customer can get your attention. Just smile and make eye contact with everybody. If he likes you you’ll get some response, if not don’t hassle him.

5) if a new guy wants some dances don’t keep putting him off because all your regulars are wanting their dances. He could be a new regular. Give him a couple of dances early on at least.

6) stage dances are good advertisement for private dances. Since a tipper is already interested ask him if you should stop by his table after you get off stage.

7) don’t sit down with a customer unless they ask you. They could be waiting for the girl right behind you. (if there’s any fee involved with sitting at your table you should mention it upfront instead of presenting a big bill later like unsavory places do).

with some DJs it’s hard to know when one song ends and the next begins so the dancer should inform the customer frequently about how many dances were performed. Maybe collect the money after every 5 dances to make sure he can pay up. Guys don’t like it when the girl says she danced twice as many dances as he thought. Things could get ugly. The good girls ask after every dance whether they should continue.

9) if a club has a basic price for a dance don’t tell a guy that you charge more than the going rate. Guys go there for fun, they don’t like to get ripped off and that spoils the mood. Don’t ask for a tip above and beyond the normal price after a dance is over. If you were any good and they liked you they’ll ask for more dances.

10) it’s easy to get another dance from a guy by heating things up towards the end of a song. He won’t want to stop at that point.

11) guys have different tastes in girls. He might be in a mood for blonds instead of brunettes that night. He might prefer naturals instead of silicone(bowling balls aren’t sexy, a little natural bounce is sexy). He might prefer small or big butts. Don’t take it personally if he doesn’t want your company. He’s trying to fulfill his fantasies afterall.

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The single most common mistake that most of us make in an initial
conversation with our customer is worry about how we are coming across.

If you can’t focus on the man in front of you because you’re desperately trying to think about what you should say next, or you’re trying to shift how you stand so that you look sexy rather than slouchy, then he’s going to pick up on your tension and translate that into feeling uncomfortable around you.
Thinking about how nervous you are will only intensify it, so a better solution is to forget about how you’re coming across and focus your mental energy on him.

You’re talking to this customer to see if you’d be interested in getting to know him better and therefore he will feel he needs to impress you. so find out more about him!

Ask him questions; observe his body language. You’ll enjoy the conversation more when you’re not worried about what you have to say next or whether what you just said sounded stupid or whether you are closing the sale.

Concentrate for the first few minutes on him and then decide whether he is a viable candidate
One inappropriate response to nervousness is to drink more. Although one or two glasses of wine may make you feel more relaxed, any more will impair your social ability (though you’ll be too drunk to notice it).

Stay sober and use other means to relax.
Many people find that focusing on their breathing is a fantastic way to clear and calm the mind. Try focusing on the feeling of the air rushing into your lungs, the way your chest expands, and letting the air out in a slow, controlled way.
Another fantastic technique is to imagine that you already know the person in front of you and that he is going to give you a lot of money, so that all the awkwardness and tension is gone. So much of the tension we experience around the customer is caused by our fear that he won’t like us and therefore we wont make money from him.

What if, in our minds, he already did? All the vibrancy, joy, and warmth of our true personality shine through when we’re in the company of our friends. Let it shine on him. So imagine when you are talking to him that he really likes you and he will spend lots of money on you.

When you do this you will relax around the customer and you will make more money.

There is a lot of misconceptions about strippers. The aim of this site is to share stripper tips or sometimes called exotic dancer tips to get you there into the stripping industry and start earning faster.

Personally I find stripping is very empowering and gives me a great deal of freedom, control and independence. I can afford to live a great life and its all because I earn a good living and enjoy my job. I have never felt exploited in any way at all.

This is just my opinion. When I first started I was a total newbie, I didn’t know anyone in the industry, I just learned as I went along through many ups and downs, hit and miss, trial and error kind of thing. This took time and a whole load of effort. I never had a mentor, and there was little to no information on stripping when I got started.

Stripping is not for everyone but it is a business just like everything else. I have set up this site because I feel its my time to give something back to girls struggling to make an income from stripping just like I did when I first started.

Life always gives you choices and never become a stripper because you feel you must. If you enjoy it it will show and you will be more successful at it. For me I enjoy the whole environment, interesting people I meet, counting my money at the end of the night, the girls I work with, the luxuries I can now afford.

One of the questions I get asked the most is am I able to hold down a normal relationship. As an experienced stripper many girls I have worked with have stable boyfriends and earn a good living . If you follow the stripper tips on this site, you can making a decent living at stripping, this involves many things from the obvious like being physically fit and looks but also many other skills like communication, sales, body language etc.

The first of many stripper tips I can give is that you must learn to manage yourself, think about what you want out of life, get to work on time and always remember my moto:

“if you are willing to do for one year what others won’t, you can spend a lifetime doing what others can’t…”

Stripper School learned in the clubs
When I first started I was a complete newbie. I didn’t now anything and was about as green as anyone can get. The good thing is you can learn quickly and also make money quickly but only if you follow the tips me and my girlfriends share with you. Everything I learned was in the clubs through my own experience. When I first started there was very little to no information, today however there are some great tutors and resources which are an invaluable asset to any girl.

With the stripper tips me and my girlfriends have learned through lots of experience and are sharing on this site, you too can learn quickly and easily. Feel free to look around, get involved by leaving comments.

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Stripper Safety Tip 1 – Watch your alcohol
Make sure you do not drink so much that you are not on the ball. I have seen countless girls lose their money, tell c ustomer things they shouldn’t of and behave in a way that gets them fired, all cause they had drunk too much

Stripper Safety Tip 2 – Keep it business
Make sure you do not give your real information to the customers, girls who work in the club, and anyone else who works in the club. You don’t know these people and cannot trust them. Most people are nice, but you will not know who they are, especially if you have just started. So just be aware….some people have their own agenda Make sure you have a set of fake information ready, a persona that you have made up and feel comfortable with so that when a customer asks you anything personal the fake details will roll off your tongue

Stripper Safety Tip 3 – Keep Alert
Make sure you NEVER leave your drink unattended, even for a split second….it only takes seconds to slip something into it. If you have lost track of where the drink has been, just get a new one…just say to the customer…”I really feel like a new flavour, shall we both have xxxxxx?”

Stripper Safety Tip 4 – Stay Within Your Comfort Limits
Don’t let customers do anything to you that will make you feel uncomfortable even if you are desperate for money. It may make you more money in that instant, but Trust me in the long run, it will decrease your self image and your morale and will ultimately make you feel bad about working there and will lead to less money later…..just remember…tomorrow is another night and there will always be another customer.

Stripper Safety Tip 5 – Keep In Control
Don’t let customers break the rules in the clubs e.g. take drugs etc. If they get caught you will be held responsible even if you haven’t done anything ……because you should know better its your responsibility to protect the clubs permit.

Stripper Safety Tip 6 – Protect Your Valuables
Make sure you keep hold of your money and valuables at all times. Sometimes even lockers are not very safe. Do not just leave things even or a minute, and try not to bring anything into wok that has your real details, just in case somebody does get hold of them

Stripper Safety Tip 7 - Keep Your Feet On The Ground 
Don’t get caught up with “too good to be true” offers. You know the ones where they will marry you and take you away to live on their private island.  Usually it is just their drink and ego talking, but there are people who will try and lure you into all sorts of seedy situations, so be careful.

Stripper Safety Tip 8 – Under Promise & Over Deliver
No matter how desperate you are for money, don’t make promises that you will see the customer outside and be sexual with him. If he asks you, be elusive by saying, you are embarrassing me…stop, with a flatter of your eyelashes. And change the topic. If you do promise him anything, he might tell your management, be a cop or actually hound you until you pay up…so be careful

Stripper Safety Tip 1. 
Never leave with a customer. You do not really know who they are, you might be intoxicated and not be totally aware of your surroundings and some clubs will actually fire you if they see you leave with a customer. No matter what they promise you,do not leave with them….ever! Also never tell acustomer what time you finish…I just say…oh the club makes me stay and do paperwork, and I never kniow how long that takes!

Stripper Safety Tip 2.
Make sure you always have a phone on you….and that it is charged and has credits so you could make a phonecall in an emergency. Programme the police phone number as speed dial just in case you need it in a hurry.
Make sure you leave with someone. If you are walking to a car or a cab, try and get the bouncer to walk you (please tip him….your safety is priceless)

Stripper Safety Tip 3.  When you are leaving look around and make sure that no one is watching you. You never know if someone may be following you, so make sure.

If you are driving home, Make sure that your car has gas in it, that it is in good working order. We leave work when most helpful people sleep, so do not be at mercy of anyone. Make sure you have your keys before you get to your car so that you are not fumbling.

Stripper Safety Tip 4.
Also if you are driving make sure you do not drink. You may feel like you are fine, but it can get very hard to judge, so be on the safe side and don’t drink at all.

Stripper Safety Tip 5
Don’t tell anyone how much money you have made. It is very easy to target girls outside of the strip club after work, be very careful. I tell the girls that I collect a cheque because it is safer….I don’t really but as people know I earn quite a lot, they don’t think I have it in cold hard cash

Stripper Safety Tip 6
If you are going to use a cab service, make sure you find a reputable one. Phone a couple in the day time and ask how long they have been there, how they check the safety of their drivers. Then stick to the same cab company and if possible driver every night so that you are safe. Do not trust any other cab service and if you can share a cab it is better and more safe.