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Attraction Tips

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stripper-tips-attraction-imageThe single most common mistake that most of us make when learning how to become a stripper in an initial
conversation with our customer is worry about how we are coming across.

If you can’t focus on the man in front of you because you’re desperately trying to think about what you should say next, or you’re trying to shift how you stand so that you look sexy rather than slouchy, then he’s going to pick up on your tension and translate that into feeling uncomfortable around you.
Thinking about how nervous you are will only intensify it, so a better solution is to forget about how you’re coming across and focus your mental energy on him.

You’re talking to this customer to see if you’d be interested in getting to know him better and therefore he will feel he needs to impress you. so find out more about him!

Ask him questions; observe his body language. You’ll enjoy the conversation more when you’re not worried about what you have to say next or whether what you just said sounded stupid or whether you are closing the sale.

Concentrate for the first few minutes on him and then decide whether he is a viable candidate
One inappropriate response to nervousness is to drink more. Although one or two glasses of wine may make you feel more relaxed, any more will impair your social ability (though you’ll be too drunk to notice it).

Stay sober and use other means to relax.
Many people find that focusing on their breathing is a fantastic way to clear and calm the mind. Try focusing on the feeling of the air rushing into your lungs, the way your chest expands, and letting the air out in a slow, controlled way.
Another fantastic technique is to imagine that you already know the person in front of you and that he is going to give you a lot of money, so that all the awkwardness and tension is gone. So much of the tension we experience around the customer is caused by our fear that he won’t like us and therefore we wont make money from him.

What if, in our minds, he already did? All the vibrancy, joy, and warmth of our true personality shine through when we’re in the company of our friends. Let it shine on him. So imagine when you are talking to him that he really likes you and he will spend lots of money on you.

When you do this you will relax around the customer and you will make more money.

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34 Responses to “Attraction Tips”

  1. Paris on July 19th, 2009 8:18 pm

    That is a really true statement about imagining that the customer is going to give you lots of money and it will make the nervousness go away I do it all the time it really works try it =)

  2. Mia Robbins on July 29th, 2009 10:24 pm

    Thanks Paris

  3. Theory on August 15th, 2009 7:45 am

    I’m a student of the attraction community, and even though I am a male, the techniques you are outlining have a lot in common with how men attract positive, healthy women. The basic concept you are discussing towards the end is called “frame”, as in, the context of the interaction.

    When I am speaking to a girl I’m really attracted to for the first time, I imagine that she’s already been my girlfriend for many months, and treat her with that kind of familiarity and casualness of conversation. It makes all the difference. Awkward pauses become natural breaths, and things are far more relaxed and in the flow.

    How you see things is how they will be. :)

  4. Mia on August 17th, 2009 8:35 pm

    thank you theory

  5. Dave on February 11th, 2010 5:36 pm

    Its so very true with regard to focus and nervousness when talking to your potential customer .Its simply like so many other transactions .

    ” Curn and Burn ” can work for a little while , but those who focus in on the client , then back up their initial contact will always have longevity in the industry .

  6. mia on February 16th, 2010 2:20 pm

    Thank you Dave

  7. Cristina on March 7th, 2010 12:18 am

    OK. SO I JUST STARTED DOING ALL THIS REACHER I BEEN A DANCER FOR A FEW YRS HOW EVER MY FIRST TWO YEARS WAS REALLY EASY MONEY DIDNT HAVE TO WORK FOR IT. NOW THAT I MOVED TO A SMALLER TOWN I CANT SEEN TO FIGURE OUT WHAT IM DOING WRONG IF I STILL DO WHAT I USED TO DO IN DALLAS. WHAT AM I SUPPOSE TO DO?

  8. mia on April 22nd, 2010 2:07 pm

    Hi Christina,

    A good way to deal with this is to watch the girls who are making money. As your club is now different, there is a different culture in your club.

    This culture needs to be embraced by you

    You will have to work slightly different but you will pick it up if you watch and distinguish what is different and what youa re doing that is not the same as teh girls who are making money

    I cannot tell you more without knowing the specifics.

    I know Jessica teaches girls how to make money in different clubs so you can contact her..

    Good luck
    Mia xx

  9. Curious on May 19th, 2010 3:20 am

    I am thinking about stripping and I am know to be friendly and interested in the customer, but at what point to you get the money? Does he just hand it to you and how do you subtly ask for it if he’s being cheap and doesn’t offer it?

  10. mia on May 19th, 2010 9:30 am

    Hi Curious,

    When you are talking to the customer, there is a point where you know he likes you and then you just ask him, by saying something like, lets go for a dance. then he just gives you the money and you offer your dance.

    There are customers who are cheap about it, but then you jut leave them and move on. After all you are there to do a job, and asking should not be a problem

    I hope that helps

    Mia xx
    Curious, I reccomend Jessica to teach about making money as she taught me.

  11. Ashton on June 2nd, 2010 12:05 pm

    I am really interesting in getting into stripping. But, I am only a small B cup. I used to have a 34 C and a NICE ass, now it’s a bit smaller but still looks good. I’m just concerned that my small breasts will be an issue with the men? Do BIG boobs really matter that much?

    – Ashton

  12. mia on June 2nd, 2010 1:44 pm

    Hi Ashton

    No breast size doesnt matter at all. I have worked with girls of all shapes and sizes

    As long as you are toned,you will be hired by most clubs

    If you read the whole blog, you will read about many girls who are also worried about the shape and size of breasts

    What I have found is that most men love breasts regardless of shape and size. But there are some men who are large, fake or small breast men and
    these are few and far between.

    It is your attitude and personality and selling skills that will make you money when you work in a strip club

    Good luck
    Mia x

  13. Jess on August 24th, 2010 6:50 am

    I was just wondering your thoughts on the recession And if it has impacted business significantly ? Also I am like alot of the other users asking about body issues because I just had a baby so I figured I would apply to be waitress and finish losing all the baby weight so I would be comfortable naked should I state that I would eventually like to become a dancer or will they ask ? Thanks so much

  14. mia on August 24th, 2010 9:44 am

    Hi Jess

    The recession has made a difference as it effects what a lot of people are earning. BUT saying that, the grls who are ding well are still doing well recession or not.

    Having a baby, you will get your figure back. I don’t think it is any business of where you are working to know you will eventually become a dancer. They may judge you and hold that against you, even though there is no reason.

    Just make sure you give them plenty of notice when you leave, and also you may want to do both jobs in the beginning when you are learnig stripping.

    Good luck
    Mia xx

  15. King on October 28th, 2010 11:15 pm

    All of girls have learned that it is best to relax and not stress on does he like me? Be bubbly,and yourself. It will always get your foot in the door.

  16. nicole on December 2nd, 2010 1:41 am

    ive been dancing at the same club for two years. i have just switched clubs and i feel like i am stuck. i usually do really well with making money and now i feel insecure and uncomfortable. ive been there for two weeks now. i need some tips. anything please

  17. mia how to become a stripper on December 2nd, 2010 12:14 pm

    Hey King
    That is really good advice
    Thank you
    Mia xx

  18. mia how to become a stripper on December 2nd, 2010 12:18 pm

    Hi Nicole

    Thank you for your message. Do you feel uncomfortable at this new club?
    You need to get to the root of why youa re feeling this way and deal with that. Until you feel good at your club you will struggle to make money as customers can feel that you are not right

    I would say that if you are serious about making money at your new club you should get the email support from Jessica. She will get to the psychological reason you are feeling like this and give you your juice for stripping again. I know she did that for me
    Good luck Nicole
    Mia xx

  19. Piper on February 4th, 2011 11:04 pm

    Hey, I have several questions… I feel as if I am the WORST dancer in the world. Two of my sisters do it, and they always make more money. Constantly I sit close to girls, and listen to them to hear the things they talk about so I get an idea. I have almost been doing this for two years now, and my income has NOT increased. Sometimes I can make more than $200 a night, but mostly I am lucky if I break $100. I know the times are rough, and what not, but it is insane. My friend and I dance at the same club and last night I made a whole whopping $50 while she made over $400.
    I have had several customers tell me that I am a beautiful disaster, and that I am just awkward. My confidence is high even though I don’t do well.
    All the girls tell me to “hustle” but it never works.
    I’m not super thin, and I have natural curves and an average body. People tell me all the time that I am lovely, but I don’t seem to make the money.
    Any better advice you could give me?
    I feel like I should just stop, while I still can.

  20. mia how to become a stripper on February 5th, 2011 12:42 pm

    Hi Piper

    It seems likey ou lack in confidence and that is what is making you less money. You also need to stop feeling like you are the worst dancer. I hardly dance, mostly gyrate and look lustily into the guys eyes and wiggle my behind when I am not facing him….where’s the dance skill in that?

    You do not have to be a greta dancer, but be able to portray you are sexy. It doesn ot have to be a work of art….the man is seeing you be sexy…what else is there?

    Women appreciate the dance more and men appreciate the feeling of sexy

    Jessica will teach you how you can make money as she will tell you exactly what to do

    I think you will be fine since you are being told you are lovely…You have what it takes

    Good luck
    Mia xx

  21. penguin on February 6th, 2011 2:18 am

    sorry if you already answered this (i’ve tried to read everything in the blogs but i may have missed it somewhere) how do you go about picking up tips? i mean you don’t just grab them and run off the stage do you? you kinda roll around maybe blow kisses idk? this seems like the most awkward part of the performance for me…

  22. Jaguar on February 6th, 2011 3:35 am

    lmao @ previous poster…only because I used to wonder about the same thing. I would love to hear the guidelines or preferred techniques, or any suggestions that anyone has as well.

    roll around blowing kisses…i love it! The image just tickles me because I know I would clutz that up and just look a mess lol

  23. Dev on February 25th, 2011 5:43 am

    Hello. I just had a quick question. I’m working on becoming a dancer, but I’m looking into things first, and one of the things suggested above had me wondering. When talking to a customer and asking questions, what questions are okay and what aren’t? I mean, I have a general idea of what is okay and what isn’t, but at the same time would asking how work was (or questions like that) be okay? Because I would think it wouldn’t be, like it may scare them off, but I’m inexperienced and unsure.

  24. Tanya on March 21st, 2011 12:42 am

    Hi Mia,

    I’m an experienced dancer but i need help with something really annoying, impairing my income.
    Please don’t think i’m pretentious or something but i get turned down a lot by customers saying to me that i’m “too nice” “too good looking to do that” (like it’s a shame to choose this job !!!) and they don’t want to pay me for a dance because… they like me too much !! And, obviously they end up spending money onto another girl…
    Please Help :’(

    Tanya

  25. Olivia on April 10th, 2011 3:22 am

    First of all I love your blog,it was my lifelong dream as a kid to be a stripper- believe it or not- because I love to dance, but my question is, can an A-cup 5′5” ethnic succeed as a dancer or do I need a boob job?
    Please reply.

  26. DANIELLE HARRIS on May 19th, 2011 12:07 am

    HI,I’M A COLLEGE STUDENT AND I’M LOOKING TO GET INTO THE STRIPPING INDUSTRY TO PAY FOR MY CLASSES. I FEEL AS THOUGH I’M COMFORTABLE WITH MY BODY ENOUGH TO DO SO BUT I HAVE A PROBLEM. I CAN’T AFFORD TO BUY THE NECESSARY CLOTHING TO AUDITION..MY QUESTION IS: IS IT POSSIBLE TO ASK THE MANAGER FOR A LOAN AND PAY IT BACK WITH MY 1ST PAYCHECK..IF HIRED?????

  27. Inga on June 24th, 2011 4:50 pm

    Just wanted to post this…. I noticed a lot of girls inquiring about breast size and shape. I was watching a movie with a guy friend of mine and there were a lot of topless chicks in it. I asked him what size and shape he prefers… And he answered. Boobs are boobs and guys are guys…. We are just happy to see them! I think to often we put to much pressure on ourselves….. Though of course u want to be toned… We are only human and confidence really extends from accepting and liking yourself.

  28. Abbey on January 11th, 2012 8:17 am

    I have been dancing for 13 years on and off between personal training. The money is not what it used to be 13 years ago. I used to dance in a go go bar (bikini) and I would work from 12PM-6PM and make between $500.00 and 1,000.00 a shift. I am currently dancing topless and I can make 400-1000.00 a night. I have to hustle to make my money. Some of the girls are over weight and ugly. I workout and have no cottage cheese on my body. I also have 34D implants that have no scars or ripples. Any advice that you can give me would be great. Thanks,

  29. AntiSocial :( on July 16th, 2012 2:01 am

    My question is what exactly should i talk about with customers. i am new at this and feel like i either am too bland (i.e. – how was work? are you just here relaxing? where are you from?) or too dirty to where it just goes above what i would like. I have no idea how to appeal conversation wise and get that good money!
    And also, what is the best way to escape/leave a cheap customer who isnt tipping in the midst of conversation without offending ??
    PLEASE HELP!

  30. c.renee on November 28th, 2012 5:37 pm

    How do I get a bigger butt like a stripper without doing butt injections

  31. Italiana on December 14th, 2012 6:53 am

    I love your tips .!. Thank u

  32. Italiana on December 14th, 2012 6:55 am

    Yes how do I get a little bit bigger but ? Lol my
    Body and personality is very good …
    Please send me tips I would love to receive
    Emails from u .. U are truly amazing and a blessing
    To me and my future success thank yuu…

  33. Philoso4 on August 8th, 2015 11:17 am

    An open letter to the forum

    Ladies, I am fascinated by women who are not hung up on talking to men or showing off their beautiful figures. I thought I
    would offer some insights from a man’s perspective. I worship
    all women of all shapes, sizes and colors. I’m a regular at a club in Ohio.
    Other than my masochistic fetish, (which my women rather enjoy because they know they can work their frustrations out on a man who will never retaliate) I’m a normal working man who does almost does nothing for himself except this which is for my pleasure. I only have one rule: that the lady dancing for me enjoy it as much as I do.
    On to the advice. Breast size really doesn’t matter much unless the guy has a breast fetish. Beauty is a plus but it is a woman’s attitude that closes the deal. The sexiest part of a woman’s body is her eyes. They should should sparkle and look deeply into mine, with a genuine smile that reaches those eyes.
    Men get tired of the rejection that is part and parcel of the getting to know you phase. I never, therefore, ask for a dance. Women, on the other hand, rarely have to deal with rejection, and rejection HURTS. A dancer must have the courage to ask for the sale. You don’t get what you don’t ask for. Many of you wonder how to get conversation started. Women talk to work through what they are feeling. It is a rare man who will openly discuss his feelings. Men – real men, not boys – are problem solvers. If you want to engage a man in conversation GIVE HIM SOMETHING TO FIX. A problem with your car, anything. Make something up.
    I’m something of an anomaly. I’ve learned how to talk to women. It is very hard work for a man. But as time has gone on I’ve actually come to enjoy it. But most men’s eyes will glaze over if the woman talks in her normal fashion. Be aware of this.
    Mirror his posture. Keep your feet pointed at him. Smile. Invade his personal space like it’s your right. If he objects you will know with a swiftness. Personally I hate coquettery but this works on some men. Use your woman’s empathy to read him; he will tell you what he needs before he is aware of it himself. Lastly, LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. If it tell you to avoid this guy LISTEN TO IT AND WALK AWAY.
    I Remain, Ladies,
    Your Affectionate Friend
    Philos4

  34. Philos4 on August 9th, 2015 3:04 am

    I have a short list of books for your perusal:

    Self Made Man, One Woman’s Year Living as a Man
    By Norah Vincent

    The Power of Beauty by Nancy Friday

    Study anything you can find on Josephine Baker. The woman was a marvel.

    I’m sure you’ve all heard of Marilyn Monroe. The woman is an icon. But have you taken the time to watch her movies? (I exclude her last movie “the Misfits” both she and Clark Gable look like they wonder what in hell they’re doing there.) it was also his last movie. IMHO his best was “It Happened One Night, though nowadays he’s best remembered for Gone With the Wind. But I digress…if you haven’t seen her in action in “The Prince and the Showgirl” and “The Seven Year Itch” you should watch them. I am, etc. Philos4

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