Attraction Tips
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The single most common mistake that most of us make in an initial
conversation with our customer is worry about how we are coming across.
If you can’t focus on the man in front of you because you’re desperately trying to think about what you should say next, or you’re trying to shift how you stand so that you look sexy rather than slouchy, then he’s going to pick up on your tension and translate that into feeling uncomfortable around you.
Thinking about how nervous you are will only intensify it, so a better solution is to forget about how you’re coming across and focus your mental energy on him.
You’re talking to this customer to see if you’d be interested in getting to know him better and therefore he will feel he needs to impress you. so find out more about him!
Ask him questions; observe his body language. You’ll enjoy the conversation more when you’re not worried about what you have to say next or whether what you just said sounded stupid or whether you are closing the sale.
Concentrate for the first few minutes on him and then decide whether he is a viable candidate
One inappropriate response to nervousness is to drink more. Although one or two glasses of wine may make you feel more relaxed, any more will impair your social ability (though you’ll be too drunk to notice it).
Stay sober and use other means to relax.
Many people find that focusing on their breathing is a fantastic way to clear and calm the mind. Try focusing on the feeling of the air rushing into your lungs, the way your chest expands, and letting the air out in a slow, controlled way.
Another fantastic technique is to imagine that you already know the person in front of you and that he is going to give you a lot of money, so that all the awkwardness and tension is gone. So much of the tension we experience around the customer is caused by our fear that he won’t like us and therefore we wont make money from him.
What if, in our minds, he already did? All the vibrancy, joy, and warmth of our true personality shine through when we’re in the company of our friends. Let it shine on him. So imagine when you are talking to him that he really likes you and he will spend lots of money on you.
When you do this you will relax around the customer and you will make more money.
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That is a really true statement about imagining that the customer is going to give you lots of money and it will make the nervousness go away I do it all the time it really works try it =)
Thanks Paris
I’m a student of the attraction community, and even though I am a male, the techniques you are outlining have a lot in common with how men attract positive, healthy women. The basic concept you are discussing towards the end is called “frame”, as in, the context of the interaction.
When I am speaking to a girl I’m really attracted to for the first time, I imagine that she’s already been my girlfriend for many months, and treat her with that kind of familiarity and casualness of conversation. It makes all the difference. Awkward pauses become natural breaths, and things are far more relaxed and in the flow.
How you see things is how they will be.
thank you theory
Its so very true with regard to focus and nervousness when talking to your potential customer .Its simply like so many other transactions .
” Curn and Burn ” can work for a little while , but those who focus in on the client , then back up their initial contact will always have longevity in the industry .
Thank you Dave
OK. SO I JUST STARTED DOING ALL THIS REACHER I BEEN A DANCER FOR A FEW YRS HOW EVER MY FIRST TWO YEARS WAS REALLY EASY MONEY DIDNT HAVE TO WORK FOR IT. NOW THAT I MOVED TO A SMALLER TOWN I CANT SEEN TO FIGURE OUT WHAT IM DOING WRONG IF I STILL DO WHAT I USED TO DO IN DALLAS. WHAT AM I SUPPOSE TO DO?
Hi Christina,
A good way to deal with this is to watch the girls who are making money. As your club is now different, there is a different culture in your club.
This culture needs to be embraced by you
You will have to work slightly different but you will pick it up if you watch and distinguish what is different and what youa re doing that is not the same as teh girls who are making money
I cannot tell you more without knowing the specifics.
I know Jessica teaches girls how to make money in different clubs so you can contact her..
Good luck
Mia xx
I am thinking about stripping and I am know to be friendly and interested in the customer, but at what point to you get the money? Does he just hand it to you and how do you subtly ask for it if he’s being cheap and doesn’t offer it?
Hi Curious,
When you are talking to the customer, there is a point where you know he likes you and then you just ask him, by saying something like, lets go for a dance. then he just gives you the money and you offer your dance.
There are customers who are cheap about it, but then you jut leave them and move on. After all you are there to do a job, and asking should not be a problem
I hope that helps
Mia xx
Curious, I reccomend Jessica to teach about making money as she taught me.
I am really interesting in getting into stripping. But, I am only a small B cup. I used to have a 34 C and a NICE ass, now it’s a bit smaller but still looks good. I’m just concerned that my small breasts will be an issue with the men? Do BIG boobs really matter that much?
– Ashton
Hi Ashton
No breast size doesnt matter at all. I have worked with girls of all shapes and sizes
As long as you are toned,you will be hired by most clubs
If you read the whole blog, you will read about many girls who are also worried about the shape and size of breasts
What I have found is that most men love breasts regardless of shape and size. But there are some men who are large, fake or small breast men and
these are few and far between.
It is your attitude and personality and selling skills that will make you money when you work in a strip club
Good luck
Mia x
I was just wondering your thoughts on the recession And if it has impacted business significantly ? Also I am like alot of the other users asking about body issues because I just had a baby so I figured I would apply to be waitress and finish losing all the baby weight so I would be comfortable naked should I state that I would eventually like to become a dancer or will they ask ? Thanks so much
Hi Jess
The recession has made a difference as it effects what a lot of people are earning. BUT saying that, the grls who are ding well are still doing well recession or not.
Having a baby, you will get your figure back. I don’t think it is any business of where you are working to know you will eventually become a dancer. They may judge you and hold that against you, even though there is no reason.
Just make sure you give them plenty of notice when you leave, and also you may want to do both jobs in the beginning when you are learnig stripping.
Good luck
Mia xx