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A Customers Point of View!

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this is a post one of our male readers sent in, I thought it might be helpful for those learning how to become a stripper to get a customer’s point of view:

strippertipsblog-image-101) never approach a guy from behind. He wants to get a good look at you and fantasize a bit before he decides he likes you or not.

2) don’t rush a guy as soon as he arrives. He wants to look around and get the layout of the place, figure out the best place to sit, see what the girls look like, see if his favorites are there that night, have a drink first, maybe order something to eat and enjoy the stage show first, …

3) just because he rejects you the first time, don’t forget to stop by later. He might not have been ready yet or he realized he might like you afterall. He might have been waiting for the hot girl who was there last time or his first choice is fully occupied.

4) circulate. Don’t hang out in a corner with one guy or your girlfriends. There could be some guy waiting for you with a lot of cash but you disappeared. If there’s a bar hang out there awhile. At least every half hour just walk around in every section of the club. Walk slowly enough so a potential customer can get your attention. Just smile and make eye contact with everybody. If he likes you you’ll get some response, if not don’t hassle him.

5) if a new guy wants some dances don’t keep putting him off because all your regulars are wanting their dances. He could be a new regular. Give him a couple of dances early on at least.

6) stage dances are good advertisement for private dances. Since a tipper is already interested ask him if you should stop by his table after you get off stage.

7) don’t sit down with a customer unless they ask you. They could be waiting for the girl right behind you. (if there’s any fee involved with sitting at your table you should mention it upfront instead of presenting a big bill later like unsavory places do).

8) with some DJs it’s hard to know when one song ends and the next begins so the dancer should inform the customer frequently about how many dances were performed. Maybe collect the money after every 5 dances to make sure he can pay up. Guys don’t like it when the girl says she danced twice as many dances as he thought. Things could get ugly. The good girls ask after every dance whether they should continue.

9) if a club has a basic price for a dance don’t tell a guy that you charge more than the going rate. Guys go there for fun, they don’t like to get ripped off and that spoils the mood. Don’t ask for a tip above and beyond the normal price after a dance is over. If you were any good and they liked you they’ll ask for more dances.

10) it’s easy to get another dance from a guy by heating things up towards the end of a song. He won’t want to stop at that point.

11) guys have different tastes in girls. He might be in a mood for blonds instead of brunettes that night. He might prefer naturals instead of silicone(bowling balls aren’t sexy, a little natural bounce is sexy). He might prefer small or big butts. Don’t take it personally if he doesn’t want your company. He’s trying to fulfill his fantasies afterall.

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49 Responses to “A Customers Point of View!”

  1. Kitten on October 5th, 2009 8:37 pm

    i am a newbiw at stripping(i just started a few weeks ago), but i have a great new tip to share with all of you about how to get a guy that you are currently dancing for, to buy a second or even a third dance with you that will make you even more money! SO, if your club allows slight physical contact between you(the dancer) and the customer, then at the end of the first dance, slowly and seductively being sure to keep full eye contact the whole time, slither up his chest, gently rub his shoulder and softly whisper in his ear and ask him this: “would like to have a bit more fun hunny”?(but try to do it in a way that DOESN’T imply that you will sleep with him! doing that sort of thing is a NO NO! not to mention it is TOTALLY illegal)! then slowly pull yourself to face him again(still gently rubbing his shoulder give him a sexy wink, just to make him fantasize for a minute about what might happen next. this line works for me 97% of the time and i almost always get a second or even third dance from him! cha-ching!

    -muahs
    Kitten

  2. Mia on October 8th, 2009 9:45 pm

    Great tip, Kitten…i do something similar

    Mia x

  3. Dave on February 16th, 2010 5:02 am

    Ok, so I had my first experience at a club over the weekend. In ways it was very intoxicating, and quite an experience. Now, a few days later, I have a much different perspective.
    I read as many websites as I could find about clubs and dancers, because I felt ashamed in ways about getting private dances, and find my normal self-doubts creeping in making me wonder if I was respectable or a creep. After my studies, I don’t believe I came across as a creep but who knows.
    I saw my fantasy girl there, and she was absolutely perfect in every sense of the word. Other girls were asking me if I wanted a dance, but she was different. I asked her. I don’t think she was totally comfortable, as she wanted to converse a little before we went to the back room. Not understanding at the time that dancers are not always comfortable with what they do with someone, I didn’t understand that she was probably experiencing a little discomfort over some stranger she has never met wanting a private dance in the VIP room so the conversation was something that I needed to help provide so she felt comfortable.
    I think I said some awkward things, there was bumping and grinding, and after 2 back to back dances, I realized that as exhilarating as it was in ways, something seemed hollow about it inside me
    Before I make this next statement, I want to clarify that I did not have sex with her (as far as I know that does not take place there). What I discovered is I did not want to have sex with her. To me, there has to be something more. I got an erection only near the end of the second dance, and I think it was more reflex than anything. In fact, I normally have no problem in that department in the slightest bit. Strangely flocks of naked women are not enough from some people. I think my needs are more emotional, and conversation would be 10 times as fulfilling.
    I think I am in the same boat as she is. I need to be comfortable and so does she. So does any dancer for that matter. This changes things big time for me realizing this.
    I want to go back again this weekend, but for totally different reasons. I know now that anything sensual is not going to be very satisfying to me without some comfort of being able to see a woman for who she is (Even if it is made up, as long as it sounds real) and give her a chance to see me for who I am. IF there is a comfort level at some point later on, a dance might be nice, but not because I want to. I think I will just tip for conversation. If after time, the dancer is comfortable with me and knows I don’t ask for dances, and knows that all they have to do is talk to get a tip, and they choose to ask if I would like to buy a dance, that would be 20 times more enjoyable than the instant gratification I believed I would get by getting a private dance with my dream girl. If the offer never comes, so be it. Conversation alone can meet some people’s wants and desires. Some guys like me never imagine that a drop dead gorgeous women would ever want to come over and talk, so in essence, that is my fantasy I guess if you want to call it that. I call it more along the lines of I am a lonely insecure person who just wants some company..
    I am a very lonely person because I am so afraid of relationships, and buying conversation I think will help me feel less lonely and maybe help give me some confidence. I think I just want to be the nice guy who likes the company of a real person, and not the guy dropping endless dollars and trying to grind against anything with a curve to it. I think I can learn to respect women more, and feel they respect me, not feel so lonely, and build my confidence. Call it Strip club psychology or whatever, but you know what, this weekend, I won’t feel so damn lonely, and I know for sure now that I value a lot of things more than sex or a great looking body. I hope to learn more about myself and others there. Besides, If I did have the confidence to get girl friend, I would be spending the money on her anyway, so I am not at a loss at paying for someone to act like they have an interest. Quite frankly if there was somewhere I could go that would offer the companionship of conversation in the way a club can, I would go there instead. The dances are interesting, don’t get me wrong, but I think there is much more to offer for those who want it.
    I hope this gives some insight that some guys may want something totally different than the bumping and grinding, and it would be beneficial to read the signs. I Spent a fair amount last weekend for a few dances and throwing tips to every dancer on stage . I spent much much less than I anticipated on spending, because all said and done, I realized the dances were not what I wanted. It was just the companionship. Since I didn’t realize I could pay for companionship through conversation, I left when I felt awkward because the women just kept asking if I wanted a dance and all the dances were doing was making me feel empty in the end. Had someone suggested a decent tip could keep them around for a short time to just talk, I would have spent much more just to have someone that I felt comfortable to talk to. Read the signs of your customer!!! Different people need different treatment, and it could be very worthwhile for you to notice the signs and offer a slower approach to someone who is willing to tip for conversation! Especially when they are new to the whole thing! I have a much deeper respect for dancers now, and look forward to what they have to offer that doesn’t involve removal of their clothes.

  4. mia on February 16th, 2010 2:27 pm

    Hi Dave

    First of all Thank you for your honesty

    What you have said is worth so much to us daner girls

    In fact there are clubs in most cities which offer VIp rooms where conversation is the feature and the girls get paid by the hour for this service
    You would benefit from this service and the girls would be able t give you what youa re looking for . A lot if men want this service although they do not know that and you are brave enough t confront it

    If you can tip this girl as if she was dancing for you and instead spending quality time conversing and entertaining you, then you will make her and your nigt so it really is a win win situation

    I wish you luck and hope it goes well
    Mia xx

    I also hope the girls here learn how valuabloe tyalking to the customer is and how worthy of thier time it is so that they should feel justified charging for this service too
    Mia x

  5. angel on February 17th, 2010 3:47 am

    how do you give a good lap dance. ive been taking lessons and im pretty ok at working the pole
    but it seems like to me that the most money is in the private dance. how many different ways are there to shake your ass lol i feel like ill run out of moves without a pole…

  6. mia on March 1st, 2010 5:19 pm

    Hi Angel

    The way to give a lapdance is not to do a series of poses/moves but to sensually take the man on a journey with your eyes and your body so that it is sexy.

    Its not about shaking your ass, but you could spend 5 minutes staring at him while you lick your lips and remove your dress asyour hands caress your breasts..does that make sense..

    Its about keeping it enticing and sexy and sensual

    Without giving away too much

    Mia xxx

  7. Ticoho on September 27th, 2010 11:17 am

    Hey, I found your blog in a new directory of blogs. I dont know how your blog came up, must have been a typo, anyway cool blog, I bookmarked you.

  8. nicole on December 2nd, 2010 1:54 am

    i cant stand talking to customers. i run out of interest especially when they dont want to do a dance with me. i feel like i just wasted my time when i could have spent it with someone else who would have given me money.

  9. mia how to become a stripper on December 2nd, 2010 12:24 pm

    Hi Nicole, You cannot feel that customers are not interesting. When you think like that they can feel it, just like when you can feel it when someone does not like you

    You need to find interesting things about your customer. And you can’t feel like you have wasted your time. If you meet one great guy and he gives you thousands, would the whole night be a waste of time? You need to think in terms of nights and not individual customers. It will make you like the customers more and they will recipricate
    Good luck
    mia xx

  10. crazyme on December 9th, 2010 12:16 pm

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  11. Pandora on December 11th, 2010 10:34 pm

    Well, I must say, that dancing for me, is an extremely spiritual experience. I am not the most beautiful dancer, although I have great assets. I have been told that I am one of the most sensual women,guys have met. There is a point at which you can reach your realm while dancing. Its kinda like a high. People can feel it, those that are open to it. I tend to think of it like this, you are in the ring, showing people your world, and if they like your world, they come to be part of it, by sitting at the rack. Dancing for me is an art, it is extremely empowering, and I have strengthened my self confidence. I have learned so much about myself as I began dancing. It is one of my greatest experiences I have come to know in my life. Dancing shouldn’t be just about money. When dancing is fulfilling within your soul, that’s when you can make the most money. That’s when it is also most rewarding. I admit, being desired is very addictive. I love the sensuality, it comes with. If it makes you happy, don’t second guess yourself. Not everyone understands what great things come from it. Dancing is not just a job, its an art of sensuality.

  12. mia how to become a stripper on December 13th, 2010 12:13 pm

    Hi Pandora
    great comment, and so true
    It really is addictive to get desired
    I love your attitude
    Mia xx

  13. Niki on December 19th, 2010 4:40 pm

    Hey Mia love your site!! Definitely one of the better ones out there and I really love how you answer Everyones questions (no matter how many times you get asked if having a small chest & stretch marks is okay!!! Haha). I have 2 questions that I have yet to find the answer to and was hoping you could help me. I am attractive, confident, ect. But far from ’sexy’. Is that something that I should try to act like or will fun awesome hot cute flirty virgin work? Also, barbie. Too common of a name? I have blonde hair, blue eyes, am short, love pink& candy and think I can be the best ‘barbie’ that ever existed!! What do you think?

  14. mia how to become a stripper on December 21st, 2010 8:38 am

    Hi Niki
    Thank you.
    Most girls i find have the same issues and that is normal.
    In the strip club all sorts of looks and sexiness work. I am sure you will be able to turn on the sexiness when you choose and are doing a lap dance. But you will appeal to the masses of guys who love that girl next door look. Fun hot and flirty will definatly work. In fact that is what works to melt the guys in the first place so you will do great!

    And secondly Barbie, is probably too common a name, although I see what you are trying to portray. What you can so is say your nickname is that to the customers, but I find a real like name always works best as guys will know your real name is not really barbie

    I hope that helps, come by and let me know how you start and get on
    Mia xx

  15. Bree on December 30th, 2010 10:53 pm

    Hello, I have an audition at a club in a few days and I’m super nervous. I was just curious if u had any tips on calming those nerves :) I’m new to dancing this will be my first auditions ever. I’m 21 and my body is in great shape I however have just a few stretch marks from having two kids. I’m a pretty confident person and I’ve been practicing in front of a mirror and some friends, but I’m not very confident on the pole yet and still I’m nervous. I’ve wanted to dance for a long time and it was nice to see that I wasn’t one of the only ones :) Anyway I was just wondering if u had any tips for a nervous newcomer?
    Thank you for any help you can offer!!

  16. admin on January 7th, 2011 11:12 am

    Hi Bree
    Sorry for the late reply, I have had a very long
    holiday :)

    Have you had your audition? How did it go?

    Calming nerves is the way you talk to yourself. Just tell yourself you are dancing in your bedroom and that it is no big deal. You will then not feel the pressure of dancing, and will just have fun with it.

    The stretch marks are no big deal and usually will not be seen at all on stage
    So dont worry and good luck
    Mia xx

  17. Bree on January 10th, 2011 10:13 pm

    Thank you so much for ur advice it got to me just in time the night before my audition :) It was exactly what I needed to hear so thank you.
    My audition went great as soon as I walked in the building my nerves were gone I had a great time dancing and ended up working the entire night. It was a different experience than I was expecting but for the better. A lot of the men really just wanted like companionship it was nice cuz I really enjoy talking to people.
    Anyway I just wanted to let you know that I got hired had a great time and wanted to say thank you for all of your advice.

    Bree :)

  18. admin on January 11th, 2011 11:52 am

    Fantastic Bree :)

    Good luck and thank you for coming back and telling me how it went
    Good luck
    Mia xx

  19. Jenny on February 27th, 2011 10:20 pm

    hi i don’t have much of a butt and i know most if not all guys like/prefer big asses! Will my lack of butt be a minus for me and i won’t make much/any money as a stripper/exotic dancer??

  20. Dave M on April 25th, 2011 5:35 am

    Its extremely important to keep the dance sensual and enticing , there are many girls out there who simply should not be stripping at all , they simply dont have what it takes , sensulaity comes from within and has little to do with looks and assets . Its a spiritual sensation .

    Focus on your occupation like a business , selling a product / service , if you dont provide great service you dont deserve the work . If you employed a plumber and your tap continued to leak you wouldn’t employ him again .

    Too many have had it too easy for too long ..To Guys , make sure you dont tip some girl purely for the Sake of it , you are encouraging poor work .
    To be a great stripper / exoctic dancer , focus on the needs of your customer , while he has paid for that time , he must be the COMPLETE focus ..make him want you so badly that you NEVER miss the follow up dance . Be confident in your skin , work the room , politely and efficiently , but dont be completely $$$$ driven or you will never make ..Dont latch on to individuals drinking liquor , move on ..Produce an Aura that is a little alouf , untouchable .

    Get your body imto the best shape you possibly can ..for the Sale of your product .

    By following these very simple steps , I promise you the money will look after Itself , and you will have your point of difference .

  21. Dave M on April 25th, 2011 5:37 am

    To Jenny ::::

    Sweetie , I can only speak for myself , but I much prefer SMALL ARSES , so please dont worry at all ..Im certain your Arse is fine and can potentially make you a LOT of money .

    So please , Go for it ..YOU WILL BE GREAT !

  22. Star on April 27th, 2011 8:18 pm

    I have been dancing for about 2 months now…I’ve only learned one pole trick and I feel like now when I’m on stage that I’m doing a bad job….when I first started I felt as if I was doing good but now I just feel different….I’m not sure what to do to boost my confidence….I’ve never felt low of myself before until now…I don’t know what to do

  23. mia how to become a stripper on April 29th, 2011 12:59 pm

    Dave M
    that is a really great point and one which will really help the girls
    Thank you and please feel free to add anything else. And thank you for being hinest with Jenny
    Mia xx

  24. mia how to become a stripper on April 29th, 2011 1:00 pm

    jenny
    I hope Dave saying what he did about butts willl help you feel more confident. There are girls of all sizes and shapes so dont worry
    mia xx

  25. mia how to become a stripper on April 29th, 2011 1:01 pm

    Hi Star

    confidence is just a feeling. To make yourself feel better take some pole dancing classes. That will make you feel more confident and only say nice things to yourself
    Good luck
    Mia xx

  26. Dave M on May 1st, 2011 3:52 am

    And to Star ,

    Star , honestly dont worry about it , in my view some take pole tricks too seriously , and the question is ..How Sexy are pole routines ? personally I genuinely believe they dont matter very much at all .

    Its great if you want to do it as some form of workout ..But you know what ? I’ll bet you are doing GREAT already , stand proud and feel your confidence flow , many many guys couldn’t care less about what you do on the pole .

    Stand up there today ..view yourself , and say ” I am beautiful ..so many think so ” I cant see you , but I honestly think you are looking great ..

    Go for it ..and be yourself :) Your confidence will flow .

  27. Elle on May 18th, 2011 5:58 am

    Hi mia! My name is Elle, I’m 22, 5′6″, 125lbs very lighted skinned. I’m a former Marine so I’m in pretty good shape. I have one ‘problem’ are. My thighs just below my but do have a bit of cellulite but the rest of me is pretty toned. I know I need to hit the gym to look my best but I do have a few questions. 1) Should I wait to try to get an audition until after I’ve fixed that area? And 2) I have no idea how to dance. I’ve always wanted to I just don’t feel sexy or like I know what I’m doing when I try to dance. I’d really like to take this step and start dancing any tips would help! Thank you and thanks for all the tips on your site.

  28. Dave M on July 4th, 2011 3:12 pm

    To : Elle , as this is the customers point of view page ..I hope you dont mind my input .

    Let me tell you one thing for certain ..You are being too hard on yourself ..just go for it , you will be fine , just go get an audition ( try a few places ) and see where your ” gut feel ” leeds you , dont worry at all about your thighs ..Plus ..Guess what ? The dancing will help anyhow .

    Point 2 ..No idea how to dance ..I have GOOD news , it literally doesn’t matter ! Put on some music at home and just gently practise alone , purely for confidence , just try listening to the music and moving to the beat . Most dancers overate the importance of both Pole Tricks and dance ..you dont need either .

    Gradually , as your confidence grows and you make money , you can revisit these areas if you wish ..But only do it if you think its necessary ..Other than that , just enjoy and GO GIRL !

    Seriously ..You will be Great ! ALL THE BEST ..

    Dave M .

  29. Crystal on July 4th, 2011 10:31 pm

    I have a question. I am looking to start as a dancer in a local adult club. I have no dance experience (except privately at home lol), but I do have natural good movement. I am in great shape, as I workout and lift weights 7 days a week. I am 37, but EVERYONE thinks I am ten years younger. Do you think my age will hurt me getting a job as a new dancer/stripper? I am very personable, can hold an engaging conversation and have an exotic look. I believe I know what club I want to work at, so I am going to visit a few more times, go and watch their amateur night before I audition myself. Thanks!

  30. Angela on July 13th, 2011 4:19 am

    Hi Mia! My fiancé and I are going through some really rough times financially and so he suggested that I start dancing a couple nights a week to make ends meet. I am a former dancer (ya know, jazz, tap, ballet, etc.) and I have also done gymnastics in the past so I have rhythm… No problem there. I’m just worried that I will run out of moves! The place I am planning on going to is basically just somewhere that the dancers give private dances. I have never done something like this before and I’m really scared that once I get in the room alone with the guy that I won’t know what to say or how to engage in conversation and further than that I’m afraid he will look at me like I’m crazy because I’ve never danced like this before. Also, I know this is a strange thing but I wear glasses and i have reLly bad eyesight without them. I don’t know how common it is to see dancers with glasses it is or should I just try to make out what I can see without them. Sorry for the long post, I appreciate your response!
    Ang

  31. David M on August 11th, 2011 7:26 am

    To Crystal …..

    Crystal..Crystal ..Believe me , you have nothing to Worry about ! Quite the reverse to be honest ..You dont have to be 22/23 to be a Great Exoctic dancer . 37 years ..YOU ARE IN YOUR ABSOLUTE PRIME SWEETIE ! and let me tell you your Age can be a HUGE advantage . Plus you are in great shape , and can hold a good conversation .

    Im getting excited just thinking about it ..You are GOING TO MAKE A FORTUNE , so many guys will pick you first . Id pick you …thats 100% …Good Luck with your dancing . Let us know how its going : Dave M

  32. Laura on August 21st, 2011 3:53 pm

    Hi, Mia! I love the tips you have provided us all with! I was wondering, though, how do you approach a group of men? I usually do well with one-on-ones with guys, but have NO idea how to approach a table with 4 or 5 guys sitting at it? Any suggestions?

    Thanks!

  33. Gigi on September 2nd, 2011 3:00 am

    Dave, I really liked what you had to say. I have always been the type of dancer who LOVES the stage, but am a bit uncomfortable with the lap dances (and my funds usually showed it- hence why i am on this site! lol) but I was more the type to sit down, and actually chill and sort of just get to know the guy in a lot of instances. I am not sure if this was a good thing or not- I HATE asking guys if they want a dance, since I always didn’t want to seem pushy or sleazy, and I noticed that sometimes I would make conversation, other times the guys would just chill with me, buy me a drink, and buy a drink from another girl who wasn’t even attractive or WAS pushy- i swear its so hard to read men sometimes!! :P Any advice on this, Mia? Dave, I wish there were more customers like you in clubs! I could just spend my time meeting new people and having a good time instead of grinding lol. (BTW- has anyone worked in the peep show clubs? How do they work, and are they any more comfortable than the traditional “grinding” lap dance clubs? I hear that there are clubs where you don’t even have to grind on the guy, but I certainly have never worked them, then again I worked topless only. Any advice would help, and I hope you have a blast at the club this time, Dave! :)

  34. Rayessa Bell on September 15th, 2011 4:27 pm

    OMiGOSH Miss Mia,

    I just have to say I have spent almost 48 hours straight researching the adult entertainment scene. I do have to admit I am nervous. I feel like I will have an advantage face-wise and conversation-wise, but I am afraid I just won’t make the salary I desire. I am 19, and I have a child. So I do have stretch marks, but I have read that wont really matter in such dim lighting. Ideally, I would like to have a sort of “Big sister” when it came to actually working there. I am not sure if I should look for one before or while working there. One thing that worries me is my boobs. To give you an idea, when I had my little one I was in a G-cup, now at most I am in a DD. They aren’t really gross, but I hate them. Do you think I should get implants before I audition? I just kind of ranted, but its so nice to see someone so experienced answering questions. Just reading the forum has calmed me so much. Thank you so much, I would send you a huuuuge smiley face if I could.

    Sincerely,

    Ray

  35. Clockwork on September 16th, 2011 6:03 am

    Laura : to approch table plenty of guy , have a stripper friend and act like if you are with your friends,and after a time ask the shiest guy if he want a dance

  36. Fred Spade on October 3rd, 2011 10:35 am

    Hi, Mia. Just came across your blog, and I’m completely engrossed with what is posted. I’ve been seriously thinking about becoming a dancer for the last year and a half. I LOVE dancing, but have never stripped. I know I’m overly self-conscience; 2 kids, not in super model shape, but, I know I am attractive/exotic, and have been told by many friends and fellow dancers that I should consider it. My question is, how do I convert my dancing techniques to stripping? I understand just practicing, but I’m unsure about the overall perspective of it, I guess. I do dance very sensually, and fluid like, feeling every beat and the different melodies course through my body, it’s like I’m in heaven when I dance… I’m just unsure about the conveyance to stripping. Any help will do. Thanks!

  37. David M on January 17th, 2012 4:37 am

    Greetings Gigi …
    Sorry been away for quite a while ..Thanks for your comments . Let me tell you my answers regarding Peep shows and Grinding , but this will of course only be my opinion , different for everyone .
    Here in Australia ( unfortunately ) most of the Peep show industry is Really Really Sleazy , let me put it this way . I wouldn’t like to do it ..But for some girls its NO PROBLEM at all , because no contact of course ..but there is the mental element of it and the kind of people it attracts Hmmmm , Say no more Dave ..you had better investigate Gigi .

    The Grind ..Well , I really think this is a Huge part of your earning potential . I would say if mentally you find it distressing , It might be best to take a small break ..Believe me , the customer can Really Really tell when he has a Great Sexy , Exoctic dancer ..he can tell she is at ease with herself .

    Gigi ..I would be a little more business like , I know you say you ” Hate to ask ” ..But , I think its how you are going about Asking ..Remember ITS IMPORTANT (VERY ) important to Ask at some point , and for you to hit REALLY BIG BUCKS , you must feel emotionally compfortable .

    To be honest ..you probably wouldn’t like me in the club , because Im so picky ..but I do always try and Help ..and I really have Helped some good ones ( Massive refferals ) because I bring though groups , and associates ..the Sensual girls get the business from my Group . And look it is difficult to keep that performance up long term ..But I know a lot who can .

    If I can help anyone here ( from a customers standing ) , or a Guys view ( and Im different from most guys , but I understand how they think ) ..Just drop me a message here on the Customers page ..Thanks Gigi ..Thanks Mai ..

    Dave

  38. David M on January 17th, 2012 4:49 am

    Ray ..Greetings ..
    We will wait for Mias View , but if I can put in my 20 c worth ( An Aussie expression ) …
    You are Young , only 19 ..Over time you will learn . Work on your conversation , and Chit Chat skills , try and become familiar with conversation you can have with OLDER guys . My view dont worry about ” Big Sister ” approach , that will just be one persons view ..You have to establish your business and your business model ..Many ” Big Sisters ” will completely HINDER you .

    DONT WORRY ABOUT IMPLANTS ..do that later if you decide in a couple of years that that is what you still want . Your age can be an advantage , so long as you have the ability to talk with those Older . Dont hang around YOUNG guys in the club , as if you were going for night out .

    Remember , you are running a SMALL business , focus purely on the skills that will increase your Revenue .

    Hopefully you have already started Dancing ..Good luck with it . Drop me a message if you want any further input … Dave

  39. David M on January 17th, 2012 4:53 am

    Also ..if any GUYS happen to be reading .PLEASE when you attend a club , do some grooming !! How do you expect to have the Hottest dancer give you an absolutely GREAT dance , if you Wont clean yourself up ?? Make sure you are VERY clean , Your shoes are Clean and you SMELL great ( not overpowering ) ..Common sense I know ..but just so many Dont follow .

  40. Leanna on March 9th, 2012 11:38 pm

    I am starting a trial dance for a club tomorrow, so nervous Im scared incase I act all confident and sexy and i just look like a goon lol

  41. Tiesha on June 6th, 2012 6:50 pm

    Hi mia i have an audition tomorrow im very nervous. How can i get over being nervous. I have a few stretch marks. I know i will do good dancing but i have no experience with the pole can u give me sone tips please

  42. elaine on June 13th, 2012 3:36 am

    Hi Dave your opinions are so valuable thx! I’m gonna try stripping this weekend an it’s my fist time. I’m great at conversations but at what point do I offer a dance? And how long should I converse with them? Are there any tips on how to give a great lap dance?

  43. quentisa on June 14th, 2012 1:03 pm

    Hi, my name is quentisa. Ive been researching alot about how to become a stripper. I am a mother of one & im 20 years old. And I really need the fast income, but I dont really understand were to begin. Is there any tips, tricks, or advice you can give me to better start me on my way. I live in florida but the county I live in does not allow any strip clubs can you please help me out I woukd really love the feed back

  44. Mandolyn on June 22nd, 2012 2:55 am

    Hi Mia & Dave, who seems to have great input!:

    I am 24 years old and I do have one child. Unfortunately, I am not in the best shape. I weigh about 145 lbs, 5′3″, and I am unfortunate enough to have a body that not only has stretch marks, but a noticeable amount of loose skin at the base of my belly. I cannot/will not be wearing anything that shoes my belly, really, as I would only be dancing in a “bikini bar”, as it’s all my town permits… So you have to be covered up, no nudity at all, which is just fine with me. Something I’m concerned about is I have love-handles that extend out farther than my hips do, and create an odd “shape”… I also suffer from not the perkiest of breasts, so my biggest apprehension about dancing is my body and how it will be perceived. I have a friend that is a dancer and she agrees I would have to cover up my body in order to dance and I would have to lose about 20 lbs. Do you honestly think that’s true? Are slightly thicker, curvier women able to make as much money in this industry? I know I’m pretty and I’ve been told I am very sexy, but I am concerned about showing my skin. :( I have learned a few pole tricks, have my own pole, and have been practicing in my apartment for about 3 months now, still looking to practice some more before I go audition. I definitely agree being able to talk to customers is a huge must, so I’m not too worried about that, as I think I’ll be okay on that. :) Thank you for any and all feedback, Ive been obsessed with reading this blog for quite a while now!

    Mandolyn

  45. Steve on September 25th, 2012 4:47 am

    I go to the clubs for attention. I try to treat you nice and enjoy your company.

    Here are some suggestions on how to get me to spend the most money on you.

    1) Get to know me first. Walking up to me and asking me if I want a dance will almost always get a no. If you come up to me and ask me if you can join me, talks to me for a little while, then ask me, I will normally say yes.

    2) During the dance – be sexy. Look at me, smile and enjoy your self. No one wants to get a dance from someone that acts like she does not want to be there and is doing it just for the money.

    3) After the dance, thank me for the dance and ask if I would like to hang out for a little while. Spending a few minutes with me after the dance makes me feel like you enjoy my company and it is not just about the money. I almost alway will get more dances from you after we sit a talk some more.

    4) When it is time for you to move on, tell me you enjoyed our time together, but you need to get back to work. I understand this is your job and you normally can not spend the whole time with only one customer.

  46. Sasha on March 6th, 2013 7:59 am

    Mia and Dave please help!

    Okay so I had my audition and now I’m on my 3rd day of work
    First day was not much money although I do feel like many men like my body
    I only got 2 dances :-(
    Second day I did better but still not much ;-(
    And still get the feeling when I was on stage that men love my body too.
    PROBLEM IS : I don’t know what to talk about?
    How to approach
    Another words what to SAY :-(
    I even ran out of words ;-( crazy sad.

    Please please help I want to become successful

  47. Erin on March 30th, 2013 10:05 pm

    Mandolyn- girl, judging by your personal description of your physical features, you shouldn’t even be working at a “bikini bar”. Stretch marks from having a child? Ok, cool, fine. Love handles that create an odd shaped body? Wtf? ! Negative, Roger that! Loose skin on your belly? Depends on how much and how bad it sags, but that’s probably a HELL NO on wether or not you need to be working at a bikini bar (again because of your physical description). Even your friend said you needed to drop about 20 lbs? Helloo! ! ! That should give you your answer right there. Give up, don’t do it.

  48. Eve on April 28th, 2013 3:29 am

    I am new to the game (stripping) at 32 but everyone thinks I am far younger. Daily fish oil tablets, a healthy diet, and some strategically injected Botox do the trick. My measurements are 33″, 24.5″, 33″ and i have implants but my breasts still look like they are natural. I work really hard to keep up appearances and stay healthy. With that being said, I thought that I would be inundated with customers getting dances from me, but the opposite is true: I can’t even tell you how many times I get turned down for dances from a guy, and 5 minutes later he goes for a chubby, drunk or/and unattractive girl.
    I have no idea what I am doing wrong, but if it weren’t for the couple or few customers per day who approach me and ask for the dance, I would not be making money. What can I do?

  49. Rose on June 9th, 2014 12:52 am

    So I have been seriously wanting to apply to be a stripper at a particular club, but I am not sure I am thin enough. I am very confident and not overweight. I have had many men tell me I am hot or sexy, but those men all like the same type.. Not fat but thicker women. I don’t have a gut or anything but I am thicker than most strippers I have seen. And if I was hired I am afraid I wouldn’t make much money. I am athletic too with a nice butt. Do you think this would be an issue getting hired?

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